"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Don't worry and just have fun...(Field Report)

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Corey, Doc and others are so right!!!

Fun is probably the most important factor to progress.

Field Report (super slowly courting, not dating):

Miss nature girl is getting past the small talk, and now has confidence to have a good time! Wow, It's amazing to see a shy girl get so bold! I've been slow, and not outcome dependant. She's really young (19), and things take time, but some things are worth it.

I got to really see her sense of humor last night! So many situations seem to be a devine unfolding!

Just thought I'd share the good news!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So you are head over heels for a girl you haven't even banged yet?

I predict this ends poorly.
 

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So you are head over heels for a girl you haven't even banged yet?

I predict this ends poorly.
Foolishness, banging isn't the end all.

Besides, I'm not ready for a lifelong committment anyway.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just a warning and I am sure you already know this being that you frequent SoSuave. Take it slow... Fun is important but do not fall into that trap of infatuation which most people feel early on in the courting or honeymoon stage.
But sounds like you are happy which is good as one should always seek happiness. Just make sure to focus primarily on yours and do not focus too much of your efforts on making her happy.
 

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Just a warning and I am sure you already know this being that you frequent SoSuave. Take it slow... Fun is important but do not fall into that trap of infatuation which most people feel early on in the courting or honeymoon stage.
But sounds like you are happy which is good as one should always seek happiness. Just make sure to focus primarily on yours and do not focus too much of your efforts on making her happy.

Thanks for the warning! You'd be right if I hadn't known this girl since July 2015. Most importantly, I have a good understanding of her introverted personallity. She's the quiet type, nobody else knows her. We have a connection.

I'm just excited to see progress on her end, and mine!
 
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