SeymourCake
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What are your thoughts on Zyzz?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have never seen the big hullaballoo about him. Who can't get muscular and shredded with drugs? I don't see much of a feat there.
I couldn't care less about Zyzzz one way or the other. Or you for that matter. Personally, I don't worship other men's bodies.
As for me being "shredded to my full potential". Nope I'm not. But I am in good shape, make over 100G a year, have a healthy lifestyle, and a healthy social life. My kids are around me at Christmas, life is good. I will retire at age 56, being close to a millionaire, with no debt. So...worshipping someone like Zyzzzz......simply isn't important to me. I'm glad you find solace in him though. I see you have been a member here for almost 14 years....so since you were 13. And in 14 years, you have garnered 68 likes. Good for you! Zyzz would be so proud.
And I see you apologized in your post......don't apologize anymore..... you have an opinion, no matter how misguided.
Merry Christmas
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.