"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"You're sweet" = bad?

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Newbie here.

I've been talking to this chick I met on Plenty ov Fish. We have been exchanging 1-2 emails per day for about a week. I know you're not supposed give away compliments just like that but I felt she was entitled to a few after giving me an enormous amount of them. I did not compliment her on looks (I hope that's the right thing to do).

So I told her:

"you're like Jeopardy smart, sense of humor, and you don't weigh 600 pounds; what's the catch?"

She replied (bear with me):

"aha wow, that question is seriously one of the best compliments i've ever gotten! you're incredibly sweet :) lol trust me though, i'm plenty flawed ;) i'm stubborn and argumentative as hell, and oh aha here's a biggie! i decided ta give dating a break for a few years, so i haven't had a boyfriend since i was 13 and i haven't been on a "date" since summer of 2009. unless you count prom...i don't wanna count prom...XP lol no one counts prom right? o_O"


I don't know what to make of it. Any help as to what I should reply or at least what to make of it?


NOTE: I'm used to dating drunk hood rats. I have never encountered any woman I was actually compatible with.
 

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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

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Uhh I'm not really experienced enough to give my thoughts but I'll do it anyway.

You did exactly what you were supposed to do. You lowered her ***** shield. She just confessed not being perfect. Being called sweet is not the end of the world. You don't have to be a "jerk" 24/7.

Goodjob. :up:

But may I ask what you're doing on PoF when you are still in high school?
 

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Thank you.

I'm still wondering about the boyfriend part she mentioned. Is that a rejection in disguise or is she telling me that she is looking for one?
 

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Also if someone tell you that you are cute or sweet in real life, take it as they just negged you. Look at them seriously and say "I'm not cute." Turn that serious face into a smile afterwards and she usually responds with something along the lines of I'm sorry, you're hot, or something else attractive.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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