"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"You're sweet" = bad?

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Newbie here.

I've been talking to this chick I met on Plenty ov Fish. We have been exchanging 1-2 emails per day for about a week. I know you're not supposed give away compliments just like that but I felt she was entitled to a few after giving me an enormous amount of them. I did not compliment her on looks (I hope that's the right thing to do).

So I told her:

"you're like Jeopardy smart, sense of humor, and you don't weigh 600 pounds; what's the catch?"

She replied (bear with me):

"aha wow, that question is seriously one of the best compliments i've ever gotten! you're incredibly sweet :) lol trust me though, i'm plenty flawed ;) i'm stubborn and argumentative as hell, and oh aha here's a biggie! i decided ta give dating a break for a few years, so i haven't had a boyfriend since i was 13 and i haven't been on a "date" since summer of 2009. unless you count prom...i don't wanna count prom...XP lol no one counts prom right? o_O"


I don't know what to make of it. Any help as to what I should reply or at least what to make of it?


NOTE: I'm used to dating drunk hood rats. I have never encountered any woman I was actually compatible with.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Uhh I'm not really experienced enough to give my thoughts but I'll do it anyway.

You did exactly what you were supposed to do. You lowered her ***** shield. She just confessed not being perfect. Being called sweet is not the end of the world. You don't have to be a "jerk" 24/7.

Goodjob. :up:

But may I ask what you're doing on PoF when you are still in high school?
 

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Thank you.

I'm still wondering about the boyfriend part she mentioned. Is that a rejection in disguise or is she telling me that she is looking for one?
 

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Also if someone tell you that you are cute or sweet in real life, take it as they just negged you. Look at them seriously and say "I'm not cute." Turn that serious face into a smile afterwards and she usually responds with something along the lines of I'm sorry, you're hot, or something else attractive.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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