She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
If you totally neglect her...she will get it from somebody else.Unprez said:i guess this goes in hand wiht the philosophies of a dj to never give a woman too much attention....let her crave it from you
This is the reason I requested this thread to be "unlocked" (or re-posted). Men MUST understand the quote above.Rollo Tomassi said:The reason I'm putting this out is because there needs to be a distinction between women's need for attention and women who overtly call attention to this need. These are the AWs. In most instances, a true AW is often a peer clutch outcast herself who's attempting to outdo her former peer group, even when this group gets extrapolated to "all women" in her adolescence and young adulthood.
Women on whole don't like an ostentatious, overt play for attention by either sex, but doubly so for their own.
BINGO! BINGO!Rollo Tomassi said:However, most importantly, Men need to understand the value of their own attention and how women use it for affirmation. This dynamic is the underpinning for a host of misunderstandings guys fall prey to. The guy stuck in the LJBF hole needs to know why his attention, while devalued, is still needed by his new "friend".
Some women do ignore other men...it is called the "Blitz State" I talked about several days ago. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=119284&page=2 see post #21.reset said:@BluePhoenix--
yeah this is a tough one. I don't know how many women who are in committed relationships literally ignore other men, especially at the office. I guess it happens. Maybe flirting has a wider definition these days.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The blitz state is when a woman is in a relationship and she does not have eyes for another man. And trust me...it is VIRTUALLY impossible to get this woman interested in ANOTHER man while she is in the relationship.reset said:Interesting. Well I have known girls who have frozen me out and I didn't think they liked me, refused to look at me or talk to me, must have been the blitz state because eventually I can't get rid of them and they tell me they're leaving their bf. Well that happened with one girl at least.
Thanks for the link.
except for the branch swingers.Latinoman said:The blitz state is when a woman is in a relationship and she does not have eyes for another man. And trust me...it is VIRTUALLY impossible to get this woman interested in ANOTHER man while she is in the relationship.
Every woman of quality (if she is NOT married or engaged or living with someone) is capable of branch swing to what she perceives as a CONSIDERABLY better man.reset said:except for the branch swingers.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.