Your Attention Please

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@BluePhoenix--

yeah this is a tough one. I don't know how many women who are in committed relationships literally ignore other men, especially at the office. I guess it happens. Maybe flirting has a wider definition these days.

 

[Latinoman]

i guess this goes in hand wiht the philosophies of a dj to never give a woman too much attention....let her crave it from you

If you totally neglect her...she will get it from somebody else.

 

[Latinoman]

The reason I'm putting this out is because there needs to be a distinction between women's need for attention and women who overtly call attention to this need. These are the AWs. In most instances, a true AW is often a peer clutch outcast herself who's attempting to outdo her former peer group, even when this group gets extrapolated to "all women" in her adolescence and young adulthood.

Women on whole don't like an ostentatious, overt play for attention by either sex, but doubly so for their own.

This is the reason I requested this thread to be "unlocked" (or re-posted). Men MUST understand the quote above.

 

[Latinoman]

However, most importantly, Men need to understand the value of their own attention and how women use it for affirmation. This dynamic is the underpinning for a host of misunderstandings guys fall prey to. The guy stuck in the LJBF hole needs to know why his attention, while devalued, is still needed by his new "friend".

BINGO! BINGO!

 

[Latinoman]

@BluePhoenix--

yeah this is a tough one. I don't know how many women who are in committed relationships literally ignore other men, especially at the office. I guess it happens. Maybe flirting has a wider definition these days.

Some women do ignore other men...it is called the "Blitz State" I talked about several days ago. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=119284&page=2 see post #21.

 

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Interesting. Well I have known girls who have frozen me out and I didn't think they liked me, refused to look at me or talk to me, must have been the blitz state because eventually I can't get rid of them and they tell me they're leaving their bf. Well that happened with one girl at least.

Thanks for the link.

 

[Latinoman]

Interesting. Well I have known girls who have frozen me out and I didn't think they liked me, refused to look at me or talk to me, must have been the blitz state because eventually I can't get rid of them and they tell me they're leaving their bf. Well that happened with one girl at least.

Thanks for the link.

The blitz state is when a woman is in a relationship and she does not have eyes for another man. And trust me...it is VIRTUALLY impossible to get this woman interested in ANOTHER man while she is in the relationship.


It takes some work...but it is a matter of putting the foundation early in the relationship (the chemical reaction of attraction and desire has to be there too). After that...it is a matter of keeping a DJ lifestyle so things get easier.

 

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The blitz state is when a woman is in a relationship and she does not have eyes for another man. And trust me...it is VIRTUALLY impossible to get this woman interested in ANOTHER man while she is in the relationship.

except for the branch swingers.

 

[Latinoman]

except for the branch swingers.

Every woman of quality (if she is NOT married or engaged or living with someone) is capable of branch swing to what she perceives as a CONSIDERABLY better man.

That's why I never disqualify from considering a "quality" woman for a relationship...even if she has a boyfriend.

The only way I would disqualify a "quality" woman for a relationship with me is if

1- She already lives with a man
2- She is engaged to a man
3- She is already married
4- She cheats on her boyfriend with me (which would make her a "non-quality" woman)

But if she dumps her boyfriend and later ends up with me...I have NO issues with that.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Narcissistic Supply is often the term used to describe this blatant need of external approval. It´s how a girl sees her reflection, which happens through the people around her. Your function is to be her mirror.

*The Adrenaline Junkie: http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/npd/99584

 

[Scaramouche]

Well You live and learn....This was a very interesting site and in general bears out my own observations which I had never rationalised before...Well Done...