Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If you totally neglect her...she will get it from somebody else.Unprez said:i guess this goes in hand wiht the philosophies of a dj to never give a woman too much attention....let her crave it from you
This is the reason I requested this thread to be "unlocked" (or re-posted). Men MUST understand the quote above.Rollo Tomassi said:The reason I'm putting this out is because there needs to be a distinction between women's need for attention and women who overtly call attention to this need. These are the AWs. In most instances, a true AW is often a peer clutch outcast herself who's attempting to outdo her former peer group, even when this group gets extrapolated to "all women" in her adolescence and young adulthood.
Women on whole don't like an ostentatious, overt play for attention by either sex, but doubly so for their own.
BINGO! BINGO!Rollo Tomassi said:However, most importantly, Men need to understand the value of their own attention and how women use it for affirmation. This dynamic is the underpinning for a host of misunderstandings guys fall prey to. The guy stuck in the LJBF hole needs to know why his attention, while devalued, is still needed by his new "friend".
Some women do ignore other men...it is called the "Blitz State" I talked about several days ago. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=119284&page=2 see post #21.reset said:@BluePhoenix--
yeah this is a tough one. I don't know how many women who are in committed relationships literally ignore other men, especially at the office. I guess it happens. Maybe flirting has a wider definition these days.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The blitz state is when a woman is in a relationship and she does not have eyes for another man. And trust me...it is VIRTUALLY impossible to get this woman interested in ANOTHER man while she is in the relationship.reset said:Interesting. Well I have known girls who have frozen me out and I didn't think they liked me, refused to look at me or talk to me, must have been the blitz state because eventually I can't get rid of them and they tell me they're leaving their bf. Well that happened with one girl at least.
Thanks for the link.
except for the branch swingers.Latinoman said:The blitz state is when a woman is in a relationship and she does not have eyes for another man. And trust me...it is VIRTUALLY impossible to get this woman interested in ANOTHER man while she is in the relationship.
Every woman of quality (if she is NOT married or engaged or living with someone) is capable of branch swing to what she perceives as a CONSIDERABLY better man.reset said:except for the branch swingers.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.