I think alot of guys have found out sex is overrated and not worth the trouble these days. I can go longer periods without sex now than I used to be able to. You guys can put in all that effort, I prefer to focus on other things more worth my time at the moment.It's really not that hard. Don't act needy or desperate and be fun and interesting when you converse with them. Escalate in person. Keep adding women to your pipeline on a weekly basis. You'll have more women than you know what to do with over the course of a few months.
Are you going to bang every woman you meet? No. But if you are doing things right and learning from your failed interactions you should improve over time in this metric. At the end of the day, it's all up to the individual how much effort they want to put into being successful with women.
And yeah, don't be delusional, some guys are going to have to put in a lot more effort than other guys. That's life. Life isn't fair. If a person wants to cry because they need to go on 10 dates to find 1 woman that's interested then that's what it is for now and then you need to work on improving that.
At the end of the day it all comes down to volume. Some guys need to generate more volume to be successful. If so then generate volume. Or don't. But crying about how life isn't fair isn't going to get you anywhere except sexually frustrated.