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It's really not that hard. Don't act needy or desperate and be fun and interesting when you converse with them. Escalate in person. Keep adding women to your pipeline on a weekly basis. You'll have more women than you know what to do with over the course of a few months.

Are you going to bang every woman you meet? No. But if you are doing things right and learning from your failed interactions you should improve over time in this metric. At the end of the day, it's all up to the individual how much effort they want to put into being successful with women.

And yeah, don't be delusional, some guys are going to have to put in a lot more effort than other guys. That's life. Life isn't fair. If a person wants to cry because they need to go on 10 dates to find 1 woman that's interested then that's what it is for now and then you need to work on improving that.

At the end of the day it all comes down to volume. Some guys need to generate more volume to be successful. If so then generate volume. Or don't. But crying about how life isn't fair isn't going to get you anywhere except sexually frustrated.
I think alot of guys have found out sex is overrated and not worth the trouble these days. I can go longer periods without sex now than I used to be able to. You guys can put in all that effort, I prefer to focus on other things more worth my time at the moment.
 

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I think alot of guys have found out sex is overrated and not worth the trouble these days. I can go longer periods without sex now than I used to be able to. You guys can put in all that effort, I prefer to focus on other things more worth my time at the moment.
That's the point tho. If you put in the time to become better at it, it becomes a lot easier. Just like anything else. Most people quit before they get to that point tho.

Trying to convince yourself that going without sex for long periods of time is somehow good is just fooling yourself. Your body doesn't think so because all evidence points towards frequent sex as being one of the most important things you can do to keep yourself healthy.

Sex isn't overrated. Either you aren't very good at it or you don't inspire women to want to please you.
 

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I think alot of guys have found out sex is overrated and not worth the trouble these days. I can go longer periods without sex now than I used to be able to. You guys can put in all that effort, I prefer to focus on other things more worth my time at the moment.
Nah.

Just nah.

I love it when I hear stuff like this....like these guys have 10 b!tches lined outside their house waiting to get some d@mn d!ck.

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That's the point tho. If you put in the time to become better at it, it becomes a lot easier. Just like anything else. Most people quit before they get to that point tho.

Trying to convince yourself that going without sex for long periods of time is somehow good is just fooling yourself. Your body doesn't think so because all evidence points towards frequent sex as being one of the most important things you can do to keep yourself healthy.

Sex isn't overrated. Either you aren't very good at it or you don't inspire women to want to please you.
Lol I’m almost 40 and I’ve had more than my fair share of success with women. I’m just at the point in life where I’m not willing to make women a priority in my life. I don’t put in the effort with them because I just don’t want to. I could go on dates every weekend, but I don’t want to. I could meet the girl I walk by at the grocery store but I would rather just buy what I need and be on my way. When you get my age you’ll be burnt out from women too trust me. It’s fun when you’re younger, I get that, I’ve been there. But when you get my age you think of more important things such as living debt free, planning on retiring early, enjoying life without having to please women. Some call it bitter, I call it living how I want to live.
 

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Nah.

Just nah.

I love it when I hear stuff like this....like these guys have 10 b!tches lined outside their house waiting to get some d@mn d!ck.

Credit: AMS
See, to me, when a guy thinks sex the end all be all, THAT is being thirsty. When he’s constantly chasing after *****. I’ve been there and it burns you out.
 

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See, to me, when a guy thinks sex the end all be all, THAT is being thirsty. When he’s constantly chasing after *****. I’ve been there and it burns you out.
For sure man. I'm not an advocate of chasing after it. I'll be 37 soon.

I get tired just thinking about going out.
 

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Lol I’m almost 40 and I’ve had more than my fair share of success with women. I’m just at the point in life where I’m not willing to make women a priority in my life. I don’t put in the effort with them because I just don’t want to. I could go on dates every weekend, but I don’t want to. I could meet the girl I walk by at the grocery store but I would rather just buy what I need and be on my way. When you get my age you’ll be burnt out from women too trust me. It’s fun when you’re younger, I get that, I’ve been there. But when you get my age you think of more important things such as living debt free, planning on retiring early, enjoying life without having to please women. Some call it bitter, I call it living how I want to live.
I'm into my mid 40s and I haven't gone more than 3 weeks without sex in many years. I believe life is about balance and when you are out of balance in one area of your life it will effect other areas of your life negatively in ways that aren't always immediately clear. But as time goes on it becomes more and more clear.

IMHO, there is never a need to give up one thing to pursue others. Unless you are building a company by yourself and it needs your 24/7 attention. But the vast majority of people are not in that scenario.

None of the things you mentioned require you to give up sex. You aren't entering the monkhood and you aren't becoming a priest.
 

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I'm into my mid 40s and I haven't gone more than 3 weeks without sex in many years. I believe life is about balance and when you are out of balance in one area of your life it will effect other areas of your life negatively in ways that aren't always immediately clear. But as time goes on it becomes more and more clear.

IMHO, there is never a need to give up one thing to pursue others. Unless you are building a company by yourself and it needs your 24/7 attention. But the vast majority of people are not in that scenario.

None of the things you mentioned require you to give up sex. You aren't entering the monkhood and you aren't becoming a priest.
Hell I could probably go 3 months without it. Not that I have but I bet I could. I just don’t have the want to to keep a woman’s interest high, I don’t feel like constantly chasing after them because I know they have plenty of other options anyways and someone will chase them around with their tongues hanging out begging for some sex, I just haven’t been meeting any women that are bringing any value to my life lately. I just have other **** to do these days that I’m more interested in than dating or jumping through all the necessary hoops to get some thot to give me sex. It just doesn’t appeal to me anymore. I think I’ve seen and put up with so much bs over the years that I’ve become numb to women. Like the other day I was getting a haircut. I just wanted a haircut, I didn’t feel like talking to this woman but she kept asking me tons of personal questions and all I wanted to do was just sit there and get my haircut and leave.
 

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Hell I could probably go 3 months without it. Not that I have but I bet I could. I just don’t have the want to to keep a woman’s interest high, I don’t feel like constantly chasing after them because I know they have plenty of other options anyways and someone will chase them around with their tongues hanging out begging for some sex, I just haven’t been meeting any women that are bringing any value to my life lately. I just have other **** to do these days that I’m more interested in than dating or jumping through all the necessary hoops to get some thot to give me sex. It just doesn’t appeal to me anymore. I think I’ve seen and put up with so much bs over the years that I’ve become numb to women.
What are your main interests right now?
 

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I think alot of guys have found out sex is overrated and not worth the trouble these days. I can go longer periods without sex now than I used to be able to. You guys can put in all that effort, I prefer to focus on other things more worth my time at the moment.
Sex is awesome. But it’s more than that. It’s the dopamine rush of having a woman lust for you.
 

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What are your main interests right now?
Oh man let’s see. I’ve been big into the stock market and expanding my investments the past 6 months, been doing lots of work on my house (completely redoing all 3 bathrooms, putting down new floors, etc), I’ve been enjoying just hanging out with my guy friends more often now. Like I said, I see opportunities all around me to meet women but then I ask myself “do I really want to put myself through all the bs? Nah just let her be”
 

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Sex is awesome. But it’s more than that. It’s the dopamine rush of having a woman lust for you.
No I get that completely. Totally makes sense. But as fast as they can lust for you, they can throw you out like yesterday’s garbage just as fast. I don’t like that about women. Usually if I bring someone into my circle I don’t plan on tossing them out of my life.
 

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Oh man let’s see. I’ve been big into the stock market and expanding my investments the past 6 months, been doing lots of work on my house (completely redoing all 3 bathrooms, putting down new floors, etc), I’ve been enjoying just hanging out with my guy friends more often now. Like I said, I see opportunities all around me to meet women but then I ask myself “do I really want to put myself through all the bs? Nah just let her be”
That's good stuff, but just don't allow yourself to get so jaded that you cut back to getting laid once every 6 months.

What style house do you have? I grew up in a Colonial-style and have always wanted to build a Colonial when the time comes.
 

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I'm yet to experience this. My body produces cortisol when I'm faced with the prospect of intercourse,
I think it's because I'm very uncomfortable being naked.
Sorry bout that bro.
 

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I'm yet to experience this. My body produces cortisol when I'm faced with the prospect of intercourse,
I think it's because I'm very uncomfortable being naked.
I have a GF so I’m not getting naked (except for her). The cortisol rush is from other women getting horny. I’m not getting naked for them.
 
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Sorry bout that bro.
Thanks man, I feel some regret about this sometimes but keeping in shape generally speaking
makes it 10x worse as there's no good reason for it. It's part of what split me and the wife up.
I never had sex with my wife with myself being fully naked in the 18 years we were together.
I always wore at least a t shirt.

I know I look healthy, I'm 6ft tall, athletic build, decent sized p3nis, full head of hair, nice tattoos etc.
But as soon as I have to present myself as an object of desire, I can literally feel the blood draining from
my face and then I feel the familiar wash over of cortisol and it's impossible for me to relax and enjoy
the moment. It's a curse. The only time I don't get it is if I send any females I meet straight to the friend
zone and keep things purely platonic which is really easy for me because being 100% honest I don't
have a clue how to excite or turn on a woman anyway.
 

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Thanks man, I feel some regret about this sometimes but keeping in shape generally speaking
makes it 10x worse as there's no good reason for it. It's part of what split me and the wife up.
I never had sex with my wife with myself being fully naked in the 18 years we were together.
I always wore at least a t shirt.

I know I look healthy, I'm 6ft tall, athletic build, decent sized p3nis, full head of hair, nice tattoos etc.
But as soon as I have to present myself as an object of desire, I can literally feel the blood draining from
my face and then I feel the familiar wash over of cortisol and it's impossible for me to relax and enjoy
the moment. It's a curse. The only time I don't get it is if I send any females I meet straight to the friend
zone and keep things purely platonic which is really easy for me because being 100% honest I don't
have a clue how to excite or turn on a woman anyway.
I don’t think wearing a T-shirt is a deal breaker. Sometimes my ex- would be cold and wore a night shirt.
 

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Hell I could probably go 3 months without it. Not that I have but I bet I could. I just don’t have the want to to keep a woman’s interest high, I don’t feel like constantly chasing after them because I know they have plenty of other options anyways and someone will chase them around with their tongues hanging out begging for some sex, I just haven’t been meeting any women that are bringing any value to my life lately. I just have other **** to do these days that I’m more interested in than dating or jumping through all the necessary hoops to get some thot to give me sex. It just doesn’t appeal to me anymore. I think I’ve seen and put up with so much bs over the years that I’ve become numb to women. Like the other day I was getting a haircut. I just wanted a haircut, I didn’t feel like talking to this woman but she kept asking me tons of personal questions and all I wanted to do was just sit there and get my haircut and leave.
Low sex drive = telltale signs of low T. Right around the proper age for that to happen. I'd get that checked out because regardless of what you feel regarding sex it is very unhealthy for your heart.
 

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It’s the dopamine rush of having a woman lust for you.
This, tbh.
I think about this sometimes. I spend a lot of energy thinking about and chasing hot girls. I'm just someone who's always strongly appreciated beauty. Me and my friends can see some stunner in a bar. My friends are like 'wow, she was cute!' and then a few seconds later I can tell that she's completely gone from their minds whereas I spend a week thinking about how damn hot she was and how i'd LOVE to have banged her. B1tch swims in my blood for a fortnight.

But what i'm getting at is that even though sex is kinda fun, I kind of agree with the other guy that it's sort of over-rated. Even when i've banged girls way out of my league, when I really think about it, it's the temporary validation and dopamine rush that feels better than the actual sex itself. I'm not that good looking but girls have different tastes and so naturally there's been times when a girl basically approaches me and is hitting on me, and that feeling probably beats sex for me lol
 
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