"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You Spot A Cute Girl, You Check Her Out, She Smiles, It's Time To Mack But Wait...

Juan_Man

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Here Comes The Boyfriend!!!!!!:cry:

Why does this always happen?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It happens because she's cute. Lots of cute girls have boyfriends.
 

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noirsake said:
It happens because she's cute. Lots of cute girls have boyfriends.
But remember, there are still lots that don't yet will say they do so they don't they aren't valuable or sought after :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Because, since she has a boyfriend, she doesn't have her b1tch shield up, and is free to show that she's attracted to other guys and show it by smiling at them, giving them compliments, etc.
 

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I've had this happen many times. Sometimes, I think the girl gets more aroused staring at me while she is with her boyfriend. I'm doing the guy a favor. Lucky bum. I've had several women LEAVE their boyfriend on the spot to talk to me.
 

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Mr. Me said:
Because, since she has a boyfriend, she doesn't have her b1tch shield up, and is free to show that she's attracted to other guys and show it by smiling at them, giving them compliments, etc.
This is why if I notice that the b!tch shield isn't present or is dropped too quickly, I can safely conclude that the girl has a BF. Now, she might still be up for some, but that's another story.

Single attractive girls never warm up that fast.
 

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Jitterbug said:
This is why if I notice that the b!tch shield isn't present or is dropped too quickly, I can safely conclude that the girl has a BF. Now, she might still be up for some, but that's another story.

Single attractive girls never warm up that fast.
interesting. Is this your opinion or is this proven? I think this is quite interesting.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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jafyk said:
interesting. Is this your opinion or is this proven? I think this is quite interesting.
It's what I've observed from my personal experience.

Usually taken girls are less inhibited and interact (or even flirt) with other guys much more freely as they think & rationalize that it's just harmless and nothing will come from that (as they're taken). Understandably, as a bit of flirting is fun & healthy, and girls love flirting & attention. However, sometimes, one thing leads to another... and that's how some taken girls can go too far (I've been in that boat with them too).

Those other guys (and I've been in their shoes many times) usually are blinded by their egos and think that "wow, I must be so on top of my game today/tonight! I haven't really done anything, yet she's so opening up to me. It's on!"

freshstartin2008 said:
I've had this happen many times. Sometimes, I think the girl gets more aroused staring at me while she is with her boyfriend. I'm doing the guy a favor. Lucky bum. I've had several women LEAVE their boyfriend on the spot to talk to me.
Yep, same here. Now, sometimes this is done deliberately and planned between the couple. They would go out and get their appetite from other people so that they could come home together and shag each other silly.

I've experienced enough of it so my gut detects taken chicks very quickly.

Just last night, I was opened by this really cute girl and it went very smoothly. She was complimenting me on my dance moves and asked a lot of questions. We danced for a bit, and then the alarm in my gut started ringing, because it was going pretty fast with zero resistance and I hadn't even got any sh!t test. I just knew that she has a BF, so I asked a few indirect questions (basically checking if she goes to certain venues, and if her friend - we have a mutual friend - goes with her) and yep, sure enough, she does.

I'd have no problem with going for that girl, usually, but that time there was a specific reason that makes me not want to cut her bloke's lunch.

Whether chicks like her are looking to branch-swing is for another discussion.
 

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Jitterbug said:
It's what I've observed from my personal experience.

Usually taken girls are less inhibited and interact (or even flirt) with other guys much more freely as they think & rationalize that it's just harmless and nothing will come from that (as they're taken). Understandably, as a bit of flirting is fun & healthy, and girls love flirting & attention. However, sometimes, one thing leads to another... and that's how some taken girls can go too far (I've been in that boat with them too).

Those other guys (and I've been in their shoes many times) usually are blinded by their egos and think that "wow, I must be so on top of my game today/tonight! I haven't really done anything, yet she's so opening up to me. It's on!"



Yep, same here. Now, sometimes this is done deliberately and planned between the couple. They would go out and get their appetite from other people so that they could come home together and shag each other silly.

I've experienced enough of it so my gut detects taken chicks very quickly.

Just last night, I was opened by this really cute girl and it went very smoothly. She was complimenting me on my dance moves and asked a lot of questions. We danced for a bit, and then the alarm in my gut started ringing, because it was going pretty fast with zero resistance and I hadn't even got any sh!t test. I just knew that she has a BF, so I asked a few indirect questions (basically checking if she goes to certain venues, and if her friend - we have a mutual friend - goes with her) and yep, sure enough, she does.

I'd have no problem with going for that girl, usually, but that time there was a specific reason that makes me not want to cut her bloke's lunch.

Whether chicks like her are looking to branch-swing is for another discussion.


I agree that MOST cute/hot girls have boyfriends. However, most of them are branch swingers. Therefore, unless a woman has a ring on her finger or lives with her boyfriend.....she is fair game.
 
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