Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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You Spot A Cute Girl, You Check Her Out, She Smiles, It's Time To Mack But Wait...

Juan_Man

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Here Comes The Boyfriend!!!!!!:cry:

Why does this always happen?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It happens because she's cute. Lots of cute girls have boyfriends.
 

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noirsake said:
It happens because she's cute. Lots of cute girls have boyfriends.
But remember, there are still lots that don't yet will say they do so they don't they aren't valuable or sought after :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Because, since she has a boyfriend, she doesn't have her b1tch shield up, and is free to show that she's attracted to other guys and show it by smiling at them, giving them compliments, etc.
 

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I've had this happen many times. Sometimes, I think the girl gets more aroused staring at me while she is with her boyfriend. I'm doing the guy a favor. Lucky bum. I've had several women LEAVE their boyfriend on the spot to talk to me.
 

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Mr. Me said:
Because, since she has a boyfriend, she doesn't have her b1tch shield up, and is free to show that she's attracted to other guys and show it by smiling at them, giving them compliments, etc.
This is why if I notice that the b!tch shield isn't present or is dropped too quickly, I can safely conclude that the girl has a BF. Now, she might still be up for some, but that's another story.

Single attractive girls never warm up that fast.
 

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Jitterbug said:
This is why if I notice that the b!tch shield isn't present or is dropped too quickly, I can safely conclude that the girl has a BF. Now, she might still be up for some, but that's another story.

Single attractive girls never warm up that fast.
interesting. Is this your opinion or is this proven? I think this is quite interesting.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jafyk said:
interesting. Is this your opinion or is this proven? I think this is quite interesting.
It's what I've observed from my personal experience.

Usually taken girls are less inhibited and interact (or even flirt) with other guys much more freely as they think & rationalize that it's just harmless and nothing will come from that (as they're taken). Understandably, as a bit of flirting is fun & healthy, and girls love flirting & attention. However, sometimes, one thing leads to another... and that's how some taken girls can go too far (I've been in that boat with them too).

Those other guys (and I've been in their shoes many times) usually are blinded by their egos and think that "wow, I must be so on top of my game today/tonight! I haven't really done anything, yet she's so opening up to me. It's on!"

freshstartin2008 said:
I've had this happen many times. Sometimes, I think the girl gets more aroused staring at me while she is with her boyfriend. I'm doing the guy a favor. Lucky bum. I've had several women LEAVE their boyfriend on the spot to talk to me.
Yep, same here. Now, sometimes this is done deliberately and planned between the couple. They would go out and get their appetite from other people so that they could come home together and shag each other silly.

I've experienced enough of it so my gut detects taken chicks very quickly.

Just last night, I was opened by this really cute girl and it went very smoothly. She was complimenting me on my dance moves and asked a lot of questions. We danced for a bit, and then the alarm in my gut started ringing, because it was going pretty fast with zero resistance and I hadn't even got any sh!t test. I just knew that she has a BF, so I asked a few indirect questions (basically checking if she goes to certain venues, and if her friend - we have a mutual friend - goes with her) and yep, sure enough, she does.

I'd have no problem with going for that girl, usually, but that time there was a specific reason that makes me not want to cut her bloke's lunch.

Whether chicks like her are looking to branch-swing is for another discussion.
 

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Jitterbug said:
It's what I've observed from my personal experience.

Usually taken girls are less inhibited and interact (or even flirt) with other guys much more freely as they think & rationalize that it's just harmless and nothing will come from that (as they're taken). Understandably, as a bit of flirting is fun & healthy, and girls love flirting & attention. However, sometimes, one thing leads to another... and that's how some taken girls can go too far (I've been in that boat with them too).

Those other guys (and I've been in their shoes many times) usually are blinded by their egos and think that "wow, I must be so on top of my game today/tonight! I haven't really done anything, yet she's so opening up to me. It's on!"



Yep, same here. Now, sometimes this is done deliberately and planned between the couple. They would go out and get their appetite from other people so that they could come home together and shag each other silly.

I've experienced enough of it so my gut detects taken chicks very quickly.

Just last night, I was opened by this really cute girl and it went very smoothly. She was complimenting me on my dance moves and asked a lot of questions. We danced for a bit, and then the alarm in my gut started ringing, because it was going pretty fast with zero resistance and I hadn't even got any sh!t test. I just knew that she has a BF, so I asked a few indirect questions (basically checking if she goes to certain venues, and if her friend - we have a mutual friend - goes with her) and yep, sure enough, she does.

I'd have no problem with going for that girl, usually, but that time there was a specific reason that makes me not want to cut her bloke's lunch.

Whether chicks like her are looking to branch-swing is for another discussion.


I agree that MOST cute/hot girls have boyfriends. However, most of them are branch swingers. Therefore, unless a woman has a ring on her finger or lives with her boyfriend.....she is fair game.
 
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