You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Hilarious, although I would say that I take the bad news better than he does. :crackup:SmoothTalker said:
But remember, there are still lots that don't yet will say they do so they don't they aren't valuable or sought afternoirsake said:It happens because she's cute. Lots of cute girls have boyfriends.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This is why if I notice that the b!tch shield isn't present or is dropped too quickly, I can safely conclude that the girl has a BF. Now, she might still be up for some, but that's another story.Mr. Me said:Because, since she has a boyfriend, she doesn't have her b1tch shield up, and is free to show that she's attracted to other guys and show it by smiling at them, giving them compliments, etc.
interesting. Is this your opinion or is this proven? I think this is quite interesting.Jitterbug said:This is why if I notice that the b!tch shield isn't present or is dropped too quickly, I can safely conclude that the girl has a BF. Now, she might still be up for some, but that's another story.
Single attractive girls never warm up that fast.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
It's what I've observed from my personal experience.jafyk said:interesting. Is this your opinion or is this proven? I think this is quite interesting.
Yep, same here. Now, sometimes this is done deliberately and planned between the couple. They would go out and get their appetite from other people so that they could come home together and shag each other silly.freshstartin2008 said:I've had this happen many times. Sometimes, I think the girl gets more aroused staring at me while she is with her boyfriend. I'm doing the guy a favor. Lucky bum. I've had several women LEAVE their boyfriend on the spot to talk to me.
Jitterbug said:It's what I've observed from my personal experience.
Usually taken girls are less inhibited and interact (or even flirt) with other guys much more freely as they think & rationalize that it's just harmless and nothing will come from that (as they're taken). Understandably, as a bit of flirting is fun & healthy, and girls love flirting & attention. However, sometimes, one thing leads to another... and that's how some taken girls can go too far (I've been in that boat with them too).
Those other guys (and I've been in their shoes many times) usually are blinded by their egos and think that "wow, I must be so on top of my game today/tonight! I haven't really done anything, yet she's so opening up to me. It's on!"
Yep, same here. Now, sometimes this is done deliberately and planned between the couple. They would go out and get their appetite from other people so that they could come home together and shag each other silly.
I've experienced enough of it so my gut detects taken chicks very quickly.
Just last night, I was opened by this really cute girl and it went very smoothly. She was complimenting me on my dance moves and asked a lot of questions. We danced for a bit, and then the alarm in my gut started ringing, because it was going pretty fast with zero resistance and I hadn't even got any sh!t test. I just knew that she has a BF, so I asked a few indirect questions (basically checking if she goes to certain venues, and if her friend - we have a mutual friend - goes with her) and yep, sure enough, she does.
I'd have no problem with going for that girl, usually, but that time there was a specific reason that makes me not want to cut her bloke's lunch.
Whether chicks like her are looking to branch-swing is for another discussion.