"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You know you are an AFC when......
- Thread starter backbreaker
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When she tells a guy she has an STD (afterwards) and he "supports" her.
He calls the doctor for her (regarding the STD).
He pays her traffic tickets for her.
He asks her about a intimate experience with another guy.
She answers and he listens thinking its getting him somewhere.
She gets mad/angry/brutal and he tells himself its his fault.
She is suspected of banging the entire team and he tells himself she is different.
She banged the entire team and when confronted he believes she will be different.
She swallows for the bad boys but he's okay when she doesn't do it for him.
He writes poems - lots of poems.
He tells her he loves her before they've even kissed.
She goes to Cancun with a guy *friend* while he agrees to take her garbage out back home.
She asks him to feed her friggin' poodle because she's gonna stay at a *friends* house.
(...this is way too fun...)
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
that actually happened to me in high school. and what was even worse.. I WAS ON THE DAMN TEAM AND I DIDN'T GET ANY!
Docs
Banned
- Even her ugliest friends tell you how much of a nice guy you are.
- Even the ugliest of the ugliest friends tell you how much of a nice guy you are
- You're 30, and your friends can't put their finger on why you can't get laid.
- You draft up a plan, with all variables accounted for except for one thing. You never follow though
- Or you follow though, and you forgot to account for the fact she doesn't like you.
- You get confronted by a random on the street asking you if you are dating this smoking babe walking beside you, and you tell them that no, you're just her friend.
And the all time greatest you know you're an AFC when...
... you admit it to yourself.
PeterNorthisawesome
Banned
When you drive your car for 3 hours just so you can see the chick for 1 hour.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
PeterNorthisawesome said:
fixed it for ya
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
You authorize her to use your bank account or credit card.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She tells you what she likes in a man, and you try to change into that man.
Your girlfriend flirts with your friends.
You flinch when a girl touches you.
You tell her how you feel instead of showing her.
Maan, this whole thread is bringing back some painful memories!
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
:crackup:
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
when your walking down the hall of your school...and the girl that youve passionately fall in love with ....is being kissed very passionately by some other dude ...and want to beat the living sh!t out of the guy for kissing ur girl or just burst in to tears
...PeterNorthisawesome
Banned
Wait wait... AFCs GET LAID? Since when? I heard plenty of AFC telling me how they drove 3-4 hours just so they can see the girl for 1 hour... not for sex but to TALK AKA LISTENING TO HER PROBLEMS... sucks to be an emtional tampon lolbackbreaker said:
Mr.Positive
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Furthermore, when you text message your oneitis more than you see her, she moves away...and then dumps you via text message. :crackup:
God I'm glad I found this site.
rakishness
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.....When you ask a girl out through a friend
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
You are mayor of a town who creates a web site to find a woman, and then still can't get a woman.
http://www.marrythemayor.com/
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.