"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You know you are an AFC when......
- Thread starter backbreaker
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
When she tells a guy she has an STD (afterwards) and he "supports" her.
He calls the doctor for her (regarding the STD).
He pays her traffic tickets for her.
He asks her about a intimate experience with another guy.
She answers and he listens thinking its getting him somewhere.
She gets mad/angry/brutal and he tells himself its his fault.
She is suspected of banging the entire team and he tells himself she is different.
She banged the entire team and when confronted he believes she will be different.
She swallows for the bad boys but he's okay when she doesn't do it for him.
He writes poems - lots of poems.
He tells her he loves her before they've even kissed.
She goes to Cancun with a guy *friend* while he agrees to take her garbage out back home.
She asks him to feed her friggin' poodle because she's gonna stay at a *friends* house.
(...this is way too fun...)
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
that actually happened to me in high school. and what was even worse.. I WAS ON THE DAMN TEAM AND I DIDN'T GET ANY!
Docs
Banned
- Even her ugliest friends tell you how much of a nice guy you are.
- Even the ugliest of the ugliest friends tell you how much of a nice guy you are
- You're 30, and your friends can't put their finger on why you can't get laid.
- You draft up a plan, with all variables accounted for except for one thing. You never follow though
- Or you follow though, and you forgot to account for the fact she doesn't like you.
- You get confronted by a random on the street asking you if you are dating this smoking babe walking beside you, and you tell them that no, you're just her friend.
And the all time greatest you know you're an AFC when...
... you admit it to yourself.
PeterNorthisawesome
Banned
When you drive your car for 3 hours just so you can see the chick for 1 hour.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
PeterNorthisawesome said:
fixed it for ya
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
You authorize her to use your bank account or credit card.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She tells you what she likes in a man, and you try to change into that man.
Your girlfriend flirts with your friends.
You flinch when a girl touches you.
You tell her how you feel instead of showing her.
Maan, this whole thread is bringing back some painful memories!
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
:crackup:
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
when your walking down the hall of your school...and the girl that youve passionately fall in love with ....is being kissed very passionately by some other dude ...and want to beat the living sh!t out of the guy for kissing ur girl or just burst in to tears
...PeterNorthisawesome
Banned
Wait wait... AFCs GET LAID? Since when? I heard plenty of AFC telling me how they drove 3-4 hours just so they can see the girl for 1 hour... not for sex but to TALK AKA LISTENING TO HER PROBLEMS... sucks to be an emtional tampon lolbackbreaker said:
Mr.Positive
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Furthermore, when you text message your oneitis more than you see her, she moves away...and then dumps you via text message. :crackup:
God I'm glad I found this site.
rakishness
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.....When you ask a girl out through a friend
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
You are mayor of a town who creates a web site to find a woman, and then still can't get a woman.
http://www.marrythemayor.com/
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.