You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SunnyD said:
Are you kidding me?? Girls naturally, who have long hair...wear it different all the time. Gets kind of boring wearing it down all the time. Changing it up has NOTHING to do with having issues...its like changing your earrings for godsake. I think I know a hell lot more than you do.Warrior74 said:How about, maybe I know what I'm talking about and you don't. Do you change yours every week? It's a product of an indecisive mind, people who can't make decisions and stick to them. Always wishing to be someone else instead of who they are and constantly unable to focus. Again. A personal example from someone I know personally. If you take offense maybe your the same sort of person.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
but it could be if you aren't around then she might be looking for d1ck somewhere else).:crackup:Warrior74 said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Did you date Iqqi?DJDamage said:1. When all her friends are guys.
2. When she does hard drugs or even smokes alot.
3. When she gets drunk alot and doesn't remember much the following morning.
4. When she sees a therapist or on some sort of medication.
5. When she is overweight or too skinny.
6. When she has outbursts of anger or she cries alot. Actually any emotion that she shows too much of then she got issues (I once knew a girl that smiled and laughed on everything I said, that was the creepiest thing ever).
7. When she lies alot.
8. When she doesn't want to fvck you at all or she wants to fvck all the time (the latter is not really an issue for the guy
9. When she complains and nags all the time.
10. When she wants to be in the centre of attention all the time.
11. When she wants to have the last word all the time.
I know a woman that is exactly as you have described, and she's now my ex-wife. She's so indecisive.Warrior74 said:How about, maybe I know what I'm talking about and you don't. Do you change yours every week? It's a product of an indecisive mind, people who can't make decisions and stick to them. Always wishing to be someone else instead of who they are and constantly unable to focus. Again. A personal example from someone I know personally. If you take offense maybe your the same sort of person.
HADUKEN!!!!:box:Magma said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
yep,playa99 said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.