You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DJ no need women, DJ have many women.Originally posted by S0LID
gd luck with that. i don't understand why so many guys come here for help with women and end up persuading themselves they dont need one. Fair enough you want to build an empire but theres always time for women! While your focusing on not needing women some ugly guy out there is getting with your girl who doesnt deserve her.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Good. You understand.Originally posted by Big Eee Zee
I agree. Its nice to keep that in perspective. My g/f is pretty much leaving me and I am fine. It sucks, but I don't need her for happiness. Now I have more time to play guitar and work on my car.
Think back to any great man in history. Any one of them. You think they needed women? Hell no!
Yes!Originally posted by Brian20o2
its simple: A DJ doesnt need women to be happy, he may want a woman (or 3) but his happyness is not dependant on having one.