BraddH
Master Don Juan
Yo i recently had a date say that 'i got her horny but she was hesitating because it was our first date. Thoughts? Do girls my age gotta fuc you on the first date?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
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Yo i recently had a date say that 'i got her horny but she was hesitating because it was our first
- Thread starter BraddH
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
EyeBRollin
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It means you didn't escalate properly. You'll get another chance if you play your cards right. Make sure the logistics are on point to isolate her. Escalate and seal the deal.
BraddH
Master Don Juan
So if you cant get sex on the first date, you failed?
That's not what he said.
He meant that, in your situation, you could have escalated your way into sex if that's what you wanted. Girls are lead to sex. You can't really make her consciously decide to want to open her legs to you. Unless she a ho.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
i think he means that in this specific instance you failed because it sounds like you could've gotten more than you got.
in general you only fail if it takes longer than average(your own personal average) to get laid
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BraddH
Master Don Juan
I think i escalated too much. Her slut defense came up. I am pretty sure well fvck on the next date. She invited me to come over.
But what I dont understand is: are all girls 100% ready to fvck you on the first date if you did everything right?
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
slut defense doesn't mean that you escalated too much, on the contrary, slut defense means that you tried to escalate at all. if you don't run into slut defense at all and didn't get laid, then you simply didn't escalate.
however if you don't run into slut defense but still get laid then it would be either:
1. the girl is an actual slut or drunk/high
2. it's been a while into dating/the relationship/whatever so she doesn't feel the need to put up a defense
depends on a bunch of factors relating to the girl that you can't possibly know.
some girls really truly aren't going to let you get some on the first date no matter what, it depends on how easy the girl is in general.
CMNILS87
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Logistics I'd say. I had a 2nd date last night. She got pretty tuned up and I drove home. She told me her address, yet she was all over me. In the back of my head I was thinking, "just drive back to your place". On the other hand, she was super buzzed and I didn't want to push boundaries. We got to her place and she had her pants around her ankles in the truck. I see no need to push, I'd call that a wrap and a decent date.
Only way to find out dude, ask her on another date and see what she says
Only way to find out dude, ask her on another date and see what she says
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
You can fvck girls without even dating them.
Thats what they dont tell betas and white knights.
Thats what they dont tell betas and white knights.
BraddH
Master Don Juan
Don't take the word date too seriously, its just a word to describe seeing someone
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
True, seeing/dating/getting to know...its all the same shi1t