BraddH
Master Don Juan
Yo i recently had a date say that 'i got her horny but she was hesitating because it was our first date. Thoughts? Do girls my age gotta fuc you on the first date?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Yo i recently had a date say that 'i got her horny but she was hesitating because it was our first
- Thread starter BraddH
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
EyeBRollin
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It means you didn't escalate properly. You'll get another chance if you play your cards right. Make sure the logistics are on point to isolate her. Escalate and seal the deal.
BraddH
Master Don Juan
So if you cant get sex on the first date, you failed?
That's not what he said.
He meant that, in your situation, you could have escalated your way into sex if that's what you wanted. Girls are lead to sex. You can't really make her consciously decide to want to open her legs to you. Unless she a ho.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
i think he means that in this specific instance you failed because it sounds like you could've gotten more than you got.
in general you only fail if it takes longer than average(your own personal average) to get laid
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BraddH
Master Don Juan
I think i escalated too much. Her slut defense came up. I am pretty sure well fvck on the next date. She invited me to come over.
But what I dont understand is: are all girls 100% ready to fvck you on the first date if you did everything right?
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
slut defense doesn't mean that you escalated too much, on the contrary, slut defense means that you tried to escalate at all. if you don't run into slut defense at all and didn't get laid, then you simply didn't escalate.
however if you don't run into slut defense but still get laid then it would be either:
1. the girl is an actual slut or drunk/high
2. it's been a while into dating/the relationship/whatever so she doesn't feel the need to put up a defense
depends on a bunch of factors relating to the girl that you can't possibly know.
some girls really truly aren't going to let you get some on the first date no matter what, it depends on how easy the girl is in general.
CMNILS87
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Logistics I'd say. I had a 2nd date last night. She got pretty tuned up and I drove home. She told me her address, yet she was all over me. In the back of my head I was thinking, "just drive back to your place". On the other hand, she was super buzzed and I didn't want to push boundaries. We got to her place and she had her pants around her ankles in the truck. I see no need to push, I'd call that a wrap and a decent date.
Only way to find out dude, ask her on another date and see what she says
Only way to find out dude, ask her on another date and see what she says
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
You can fvck girls without even dating them.
Thats what they dont tell betas and white knights.
Thats what they dont tell betas and white knights.
BraddH
Master Don Juan
Don't take the word date too seriously, its just a word to describe seeing someone
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
True, seeing/dating/getting to know...its all the same shi1t