"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yo, Can we PLEASE STOP with the #'s rating system?
- Thread starter Julian
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Last night's girl was 2 π.
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This is correct.
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Julian- Its fairly obvious that you don't see value in a more analytical approach. I get what you are saying and there is some validity to it. You don't like numbers, you advise to go by "feeling", don't think so much, take a simpler approach. You don't see value in details and that is fine. You probably don't like psychology/sociology either. That's fine too, everybody is different, but just because it doesn't suit your tastes doesn't mean there isn't validity to the other side of the spectrum. There happens to be a lot of highly rational/analytical minds that post on this forum so you are going to see what you are seeing. You might try accepting that and use it to enrich your own understanding. A big part of personal growth is learning to accept others for what they offer, not asking them to stop because of what you don't like about them. Many times its those that you despise that end up teaching you the most.
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Were you referring to me?
I admit I have that effect on people."Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Solomon
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What's the difference between an 8 and a 9
and you can celebrity pics if you wish Master Teacher Guru
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About 5x the entitlement, and 10x the narcissism.
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lmfao Yes Guru,......you have caused me mental discomfort many times.Were you referring to me?
taiyuu_otoko
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weak
I personally prefer the HB number rating system over posters actually providing pictures as it gives the forum a better mental imagery of what the HB really looks like. You know since pictures are taken by HB's using filters, those dog face mask cartoons, angles, makeup, camouflage clothing and whatnot.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Hated Guru?? Ya, like I couldn't figure that one out
Solomon said:
Building on this:guru1000 said:
The simple law of supply and demand shows that 9s appear almost 5-10x less frequently than 8s, dependent on location.
More demand, less supply, drives the market's value higher. We are comparing an 8 who gets approached maybe a few times a day to a 9 who gets approached everywhere, offered modeling jobs, worshipped, stalked, and has already dated some high-profile men. Very different conditioning, experiences, and motivations between 8s and 9s indeed. Ratings are just one descriptive technique among many to qualify a scenario.
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Agree.
I think guys only care about:
- weight
- age
- normal looking (no physical defects)
Anything else guys would have sex with in 11 seconds. All the other stuff: she's bitchy, she's annoying, she's has too many orbiters, etc, are ridiculous excuses. There is no way any red blooded male in 2017 in North America, especially on here, would pass up sex with any average looking girl.
Great topic, OP! I have to say I totally agree.
I propose a new system (though one is really not needed but here it is):
Hot
Not Hot
Bangable
Simple and brings context, in my opinion.
She's Hot.
She's definitely Bangable.
She's Not Hot. (But I'm banging her for the moment)
I propose a new system (though one is really not needed but here it is):
Hot
Not Hot
Bangable
Simple and brings context, in my opinion.
She's Hot.
She's definitely Bangable.
She's Not Hot. (But I'm banging her for the moment)
Atom Smasher
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^^ THIS ^^
Trump age plays in. Self respect increases libido decreases. Even 10 years ago I could put up with just about anything to bang an attractive girl. Can't be bothered l
Placating or reframing a b1tch anymore just to get the puss.
Placating or reframing a b1tch anymore just to get the puss.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RangerMIke
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I really don't care if people use numbers... it's a good reference for how attractive THEY think a chick is. My 9 is another dudes 5. If you don't keep this in mind I agree with the OP it's meaningless. If you are going to give advice and a guy is making an @ss of himself with a chick a guy says in a 9... well it happens, and he just needs to understand the nature of chicks. If he says he's making a fool of himself with a 5.... well you have some kind of self loathing motherfvcker than need to work on his self esteem.
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So, what you are saying is that she is irrational lol?
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ChristopherColumbus
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The number measures a single dimension; namely, the appearance of objective beauty. Women in the flesh are of course 'three dimensional', but that is harder to communicate and objectify. To be attractive and desirable, which can only be experienced in the first person, a woman has to score well in at least two dimensions.