Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Why am I nexting her?? Are there bad signals here?Microfiltered said:NEXT her but remember to keep spinning those plates!
Anyways, how’s this: “You will be pleased to learn that I made it home safely" (and then add in some kind original gesture like have a good evening if that’s your style)
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
drowning and need CPR?styleman said:Why am I nexting her?? Are there bad signals here?
The reply is fine, but not really witty or ****y... may as well not send it...
I was being sarcastic. It’s just common advice given here that’s all. Anyways, yeah not really that ****y (but it is a bit) and definitely not witty but I think it would get the job done (that is keep up the IL).NEXT her but remember to keep spinning those plates!
Does it work?remotecontrol said:text her, its manners...just say im fine, thanx for caring xxx I love you so much darling xxxx lets get married
Well thats what I would do anyway
Just send her a text msg and say your all right.I was ill when I met this girl today, she said
'text me when you get home so I know you're okay'
Should I or is it a trap? If so, any witty responses..?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yes.JDA70 said:Just send her a text msg and say your all right.
I don't text msg but so I'm guessing you have to have her number to
send the msg.
Is that correct?
It's more advanced with her than this, she'd likely take that far too seriously...remotecontrol said:hahaha I was teasing you man
however I have said stuff like this many, many, many times and yes it does work. Women know your teasing but they love the idea that you had the nerve to play like this and it plants a seed.
she will probably text you back with something like
"i love you to darling, when should we set the date"
From there on youve got her on the hook EASY
people are predictable....unless she has no sense of humour.. and if she is that dull then you dont want her anyway.
i'm loving it!Francisco d'Anconia said:"Help... At home being held hostage by a Martian named Marvin. He's going to blast me unless I give him a "Uranium Q-36 Explosive Space Modulator!" Do you have one?"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
styleman said:I was ill when I met this girl today, she said
'text me when you get home so I know you're okay'
Should I or is it a trap? If so, any witty responses..?
They just don't understand women. They are doing their best!DonJuan11 said:Wow this site really hates women.
Why hate?iqqi said:They just don't understand women. They are doing their best!
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.