I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Why am I nexting her?? Are there bad signals here?Microfiltered said:NEXT her but remember to keep spinning those plates!
Anyways, how’s this: “You will be pleased to learn that I made it home safely" (and then add in some kind original gesture like have a good evening if that’s your style)
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
drowning and need CPR?styleman said:Why am I nexting her?? Are there bad signals here?
The reply is fine, but not really witty or ****y... may as well not send it...
I was being sarcastic. It’s just common advice given here that’s all. Anyways, yeah not really that ****y (but it is a bit) and definitely not witty but I think it would get the job done (that is keep up the IL).NEXT her but remember to keep spinning those plates!
Does it work?remotecontrol said:text her, its manners...just say im fine, thanx for caring xxx I love you so much darling xxxx lets get married
Well thats what I would do anyway
Just send her a text msg and say your all right.I was ill when I met this girl today, she said
'text me when you get home so I know you're okay'
Should I or is it a trap? If so, any witty responses..?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yes.JDA70 said:Just send her a text msg and say your all right.
I don't text msg but so I'm guessing you have to have her number to
send the msg.
Is that correct?
It's more advanced with her than this, she'd likely take that far too seriously...remotecontrol said:hahaha I was teasing you man
however I have said stuff like this many, many, many times and yes it does work. Women know your teasing but they love the idea that you had the nerve to play like this and it plants a seed.
she will probably text you back with something like
"i love you to darling, when should we set the date"
From there on youve got her on the hook EASY
people are predictable....unless she has no sense of humour.. and if she is that dull then you dont want her anyway.
i'm loving it!Francisco d'Anconia said:"Help... At home being held hostage by a Martian named Marvin. He's going to blast me unless I give him a "Uranium Q-36 Explosive Space Modulator!" Do you have one?"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
styleman said:I was ill when I met this girl today, she said
'text me when you get home so I know you're okay'
Should I or is it a trap? If so, any witty responses..?
They just don't understand women. They are doing their best!DonJuan11 said:Wow this site really hates women.
Why hate?iqqi said:They just don't understand women. They are doing their best!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.