She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
yea thats good.....good body languagedotcomwill said:Yea I get this sometimes,
I look at them and grin.
Im sure there is room for improvement on my body language. Ill work on that be more confident. Either way there are still girls out there that say it even if you say it confidently. How would you respond?dav22 said:If you're getting that response then chances are you're not delivering the lines properly (you could be displaying conflicting body language/be using a poor tone of voice etc.)
Just remember that you must fully believe everything you say, if you have any doubts it'll show and they'll pick up on it.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Again they shouldn't really be saying that at all. Another problem could be the girls, they might find your ****iness intimidating and use the 'yeah sure' as a way to try and bring you to their level. With these types of girls i'd tone it down a bit so you still keep high value, but loose the intimidation factor.moto said:Im sure there is room for improvement on my body language. Ill work on that be more confident. Either way there are still girls out there that say it even if you say it confidently. How would you respond?
thats exactly what I was thinking and What I usually dodav22 said:Again they shouldn't really be saying that at all. Another problem could be the girls, they might find your ****iness intimidating and use the 'yeah sure' as a way to try and bring you to their level. With these types of girls i'd tone it down a bit so you still keep high value, but loose the intimidation factor.
But yeah, to actually answer.. i'd just give a bit of a smirk and move on. Don't try and back up what you've said or you'll come off even worse.
ok. thanks. Ill keep that in mind.Francisco d'Anconia said:Don't say things that are so incongruent to your nature that it seems ridiculous.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.