"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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****y and Aggrance the SAME??

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****y and Arrogance the SAME??

well lately i have seen some post about arrogance and everyone is saying how bad that is! but then they turn around and say that you need to be c&f........and i think that alot of new djs maybe having alot of trouble, becuase they are getting these two things mixed up!....so i want you guys definiton of both words, and there differences.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Someone here explained to me years ago that
****iness is knowing you rule; arrogance is making others feel that they don't.
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As far as I know, ****iness and "arrogance" are the same thing! Some people are probably advising not to be arrogant/****y because most people aren't FUNNY when they use c&f.

edit: stay fresh "Original Ganster"...hehe
 
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If arrogance is Coke, then ****yness is Diet Coke, if you get what I'm saying.

It's not as arrogant as arrogance, but still arrogant in a way. Now you see why I used the coke analogy, can't fvcking explain it!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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true confidence, beats arogance and ****yness any day.

****yness & arogance -> means pretending to be the **** when you know your not

True confidence-> knowing your limits and knowing your self. being TOTALY CONFIDENT in your self and your abilities. To an untraind eye that may look like ****yness and arogance. But it's not. Confidence comes from with in...........ahhhh, i can't explain it.(i'm a sh1ty writer, that's why I barley passed my english clasess.)
 
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Originally posted by spider_007
true confidence, beats arogance and ****yness any day.

****yness & arogance -> means pretending to be the **** when you know your not

True confidence-> knowing your limits and knowing your self. being TOTALY CONFIDENT in your self and your abilities. To an untraind eye that may look like ****yness and arogance. But it's not. Confidence comes from with in...........ahhhh, i can't explain it.(i'm a sh1ty writer, that's why I barley passed my english clasess.)
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You explained it well enough and I totally agree. Real confidence speaks for itself.

I should also point out that ****y + funny is very different from plain ****y. C+F should be like tongue-in-cheek arrogance.
 
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****y and Funny means its supposed to be fake and funny, not real arrogance. She has to be laughing and has to know you are joking around. If she isnt laughing and youre just talking about how good you are you're just being an ass not C&F.

For example (to steal one from David D who did a whole workshop on this) you can look at her watch and say "I didn't know rolex made plastic watches"
 
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Someone here explained to me years ago that
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thats a stupid explanation cause what others feel is only affected by you and their entire environment causes what they feel, **** saying i sorta play ball can make someone feel like they dont just cause im tall !

ur definition sux.
 
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Originally posted by spider_007
true confidence, beats arogance and ****yness any day.

****yness & arogance -> means pretending to be the **** when you know your not

True confidence-> knowing your limits and knowing your self. being TOTALY CONFIDENT in your self and your abilities. To an untraind eye that may look like ****yness and arogance. But it's not. Confidence comes from with in...........ahhhh, i can't explain it.(i'm a sh1ty writer, that's why I barley passed my english clasess.)
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yA and you missed out that there are no limits.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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[Edit]Oh, never mind.
 
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Arrogance is defined as having overbearing pride. An arrogant person thinks that he or she is the best. Arrogance and ****iness are synonymous. ****y means to be overly self assertive and confident. When someone is straight up ****y, they seem unapproachable. But when you add humor to the ****iness it makes people laugh, esp women. Women are turned on by ****y and funny men because they act strong, are funny, and thrilling and unpredictable (never quite knowing what to expect).
 
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Originally posted by RaWBLooD
thats a stupid explanation cause what others feel is only affected by you and their entire environment causes what they feel, **** saying i sorta play ball can make someone feel like they dont just cause im tall !

ur definition sux.
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that made no sense !:confused:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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