"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Would you...
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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arutha
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Lol, indeed. You could rationalize that she would be easy to amuse, since shes used to boredom, but on the other hand.. Well, it speaks for itself.But what if she looked like a page 3 model/ playboy bunny?
THEN ID SAY YES!!!
diablo
Master Don Juan
Depends on if she was hot or not. If I was just looking for sex, and she was acceptable, then yes - sounds like she'd be easy pickings... though it'd be important to not let her know where I lived as she may easily become a psycho. In terms of relationship material she sounds like bad news.Originally posted by arutha
Go out with a chick like this
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Master Don Juan
People tend to exaggerate when they're feeling down, but when things get back on track they look back and think: "it wasnt as bad as I made it out to be!"
So yeah, if you want you can find out if she is REALLY like this, or if its just temporary circumstances bringing her down.
arutha
Senior Don Juan
I went out with her ages ago, it lasted less than a week. After finding this site I know exactly why I got the BS LJBF line too, I was embarassingly wussy.. lol
I mostly posted the thread for comical value, not real advice. But I guess either works..
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Originally posted by arutha
My life has pretty much turned to nothing. I get up, I am bored, I watch tv, or play endless amounts of solitaire and listen to music. I'm barely eating, I don't feel like it. I'm too depressed to even get a job so I can stop being bored every day. I'm even getting sick of the cat at times.
I think I'm starting to like someone who I probably shouldn't, or at least I'm attracted to them.
My head is completely messed up right now, and I'm not sure how to go about fixing my life.
I'm sleeping terribly, can't do much to change that either.
I practically have no friends, or rather, I've barely seen any of my friends since I've moved into this apartment. I'm not paying any rent, and yet I seem to have even less money to spend than before.
Originally posted by arutha
My life has pretty much turned to nothing. I get up, I am bored, I watch tv, or play endless amounts of solitaire and listen to music. I'm over eating, I feel like it. I'm too depressed to even get a job so I can stop being bored every day. I'm even getting sick of the cat at times.
I think I'm starting to like someone who I probably shouldn't, or at least I'm attracted to them.
My head is completely messed up right now, and I'm not sure how to go about fixing my life.
I'm sleeping terribly, can't do much to change that either.
I practically have no friends, or rather, I've barely seen any of my friends since I've moved into this apartment. I'm not paying any rent, and yet I seem to have even less money to spend than before.
Which girl would you choose?
my point exactly, theres worse out there that the one you mentioned.Originally posted by arutha
The first.. I would rather a skinny chick than a fat chick any day.
now imagine the same thread, with the over eating, and throw in some red hair.. ick!