"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Would you...
- Thread starter arutha
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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arutha
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Lol, indeed. You could rationalize that she would be easy to amuse, since shes used to boredom, but on the other hand.. Well, it speaks for itself.But what if she looked like a page 3 model/ playboy bunny?
THEN ID SAY YES!!!
diablo
Master Don Juan
Depends on if she was hot or not. If I was just looking for sex, and she was acceptable, then yes - sounds like she'd be easy pickings... though it'd be important to not let her know where I lived as she may easily become a psycho. In terms of relationship material she sounds like bad news.Originally posted by arutha
Go out with a chick like this
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
cant think of a user name
Master Don Juan
People tend to exaggerate when they're feeling down, but when things get back on track they look back and think: "it wasnt as bad as I made it out to be!"
So yeah, if you want you can find out if she is REALLY like this, or if its just temporary circumstances bringing her down.
arutha
Senior Don Juan
I went out with her ages ago, it lasted less than a week. After finding this site I know exactly why I got the BS LJBF line too, I was embarassingly wussy.. lol
I mostly posted the thread for comical value, not real advice. But I guess either works..
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Originally posted by arutha
My life has pretty much turned to nothing. I get up, I am bored, I watch tv, or play endless amounts of solitaire and listen to music. I'm barely eating, I don't feel like it. I'm too depressed to even get a job so I can stop being bored every day. I'm even getting sick of the cat at times.
I think I'm starting to like someone who I probably shouldn't, or at least I'm attracted to them.
My head is completely messed up right now, and I'm not sure how to go about fixing my life.
I'm sleeping terribly, can't do much to change that either.
I practically have no friends, or rather, I've barely seen any of my friends since I've moved into this apartment. I'm not paying any rent, and yet I seem to have even less money to spend than before.
Originally posted by arutha
My life has pretty much turned to nothing. I get up, I am bored, I watch tv, or play endless amounts of solitaire and listen to music. I'm over eating, I feel like it. I'm too depressed to even get a job so I can stop being bored every day. I'm even getting sick of the cat at times.
I think I'm starting to like someone who I probably shouldn't, or at least I'm attracted to them.
My head is completely messed up right now, and I'm not sure how to go about fixing my life.
I'm sleeping terribly, can't do much to change that either.
I practically have no friends, or rather, I've barely seen any of my friends since I've moved into this apartment. I'm not paying any rent, and yet I seem to have even less money to spend than before.
Which girl would you choose?
my point exactly, theres worse out there that the one you mentioned.Originally posted by arutha
The first.. I would rather a skinny chick than a fat chick any day.
now imagine the same thread, with the over eating, and throw in some red hair.. ick!