"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Would you...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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arutha
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Lol, indeed. You could rationalize that she would be easy to amuse, since shes used to boredom, but on the other hand.. Well, it speaks for itself.But what if she looked like a page 3 model/ playboy bunny?
THEN ID SAY YES!!!
diablo
Master Don Juan
Depends on if she was hot or not. If I was just looking for sex, and she was acceptable, then yes - sounds like she'd be easy pickings... though it'd be important to not let her know where I lived as she may easily become a psycho. In terms of relationship material she sounds like bad news.Originally posted by arutha
Go out with a chick like this
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
cant think of a user name
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People tend to exaggerate when they're feeling down, but when things get back on track they look back and think: "it wasnt as bad as I made it out to be!"
So yeah, if you want you can find out if she is REALLY like this, or if its just temporary circumstances bringing her down.
arutha
Senior Don Juan
I went out with her ages ago, it lasted less than a week. After finding this site I know exactly why I got the BS LJBF line too, I was embarassingly wussy.. lol
I mostly posted the thread for comical value, not real advice. But I guess either works..
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Originally posted by arutha
My life has pretty much turned to nothing. I get up, I am bored, I watch tv, or play endless amounts of solitaire and listen to music. I'm barely eating, I don't feel like it. I'm too depressed to even get a job so I can stop being bored every day. I'm even getting sick of the cat at times.
I think I'm starting to like someone who I probably shouldn't, or at least I'm attracted to them.
My head is completely messed up right now, and I'm not sure how to go about fixing my life.
I'm sleeping terribly, can't do much to change that either.
I practically have no friends, or rather, I've barely seen any of my friends since I've moved into this apartment. I'm not paying any rent, and yet I seem to have even less money to spend than before.
Originally posted by arutha
My life has pretty much turned to nothing. I get up, I am bored, I watch tv, or play endless amounts of solitaire and listen to music. I'm over eating, I feel like it. I'm too depressed to even get a job so I can stop being bored every day. I'm even getting sick of the cat at times.
I think I'm starting to like someone who I probably shouldn't, or at least I'm attracted to them.
My head is completely messed up right now, and I'm not sure how to go about fixing my life.
I'm sleeping terribly, can't do much to change that either.
I practically have no friends, or rather, I've barely seen any of my friends since I've moved into this apartment. I'm not paying any rent, and yet I seem to have even less money to spend than before.
Which girl would you choose?
my point exactly, theres worse out there that the one you mentioned.Originally posted by arutha
The first.. I would rather a skinny chick than a fat chick any day.
now imagine the same thread, with the over eating, and throw in some red hair.. ick!