Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And that's how you get killed in this countrySamTheHobit said:Self defence.. In south africa its pretty much manditory to carry a knife or pepper spray when leaving your home.
If someone pulls a knife on me, I wont hesitate to slash there throat.
If they pull a gun either run.
You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.Who Dares Win said:The same thing if someone invade my property with no authorization or necessity, and the answer is yes, I consider my hard gained property more worthy than the life of someone who doesnt respect me and my territory.
You claim you are in Russia but you live in a hollywood produced movie.backseatjuan said:You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.
If I ever catch one I'd make him answer under his own law. I'd take the stolen property back and gain respect in the under world. Respect alone is better than a gun. Respect is like a 24 hour security system.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I dont play rpg games online but I kinda liked the tv series "brigada", are those the guys who decide?backseatjuan said:You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.
If I ever catch one I'd make him answer under his own law. I'd take the stolen property back and gain respect in the under world. Respect alone is better than a gun. Respect is like a 24 hour security system.