You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
And that's how you get killed in this countrySamTheHobit said:Self defence.. In south africa its pretty much manditory to carry a knife or pepper spray when leaving your home.
If someone pulls a knife on me, I wont hesitate to slash there throat.
If they pull a gun either run.
You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.Who Dares Win said:The same thing if someone invade my property with no authorization or necessity, and the answer is yes, I consider my hard gained property more worthy than the life of someone who doesnt respect me and my territory.
You claim you are in Russia but you live in a hollywood produced movie.backseatjuan said:You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.
If I ever catch one I'd make him answer under his own law. I'd take the stolen property back and gain respect in the under world. Respect alone is better than a gun. Respect is like a 24 hour security system.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I dont play rpg games online but I kinda liked the tv series "brigada", are those the guys who decide?backseatjuan said:You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.
If I ever catch one I'd make him answer under his own law. I'd take the stolen property back and gain respect in the under world. Respect alone is better than a gun. Respect is like a 24 hour security system.