She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
And that's how you get killed in this countrySamTheHobit said:Self defence.. In south africa its pretty much manditory to carry a knife or pepper spray when leaving your home.
If someone pulls a knife on me, I wont hesitate to slash there throat.
If they pull a gun either run.
You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.Who Dares Win said:The same thing if someone invade my property with no authorization or necessity, and the answer is yes, I consider my hard gained property more worthy than the life of someone who doesnt respect me and my territory.
You claim you are in Russia but you live in a hollywood produced movie.backseatjuan said:You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.
If I ever catch one I'd make him answer under his own law. I'd take the stolen property back and gain respect in the under world. Respect alone is better than a gun. Respect is like a 24 hour security system.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I dont play rpg games online but I kinda liked the tv series "brigada", are those the guys who decide?backseatjuan said:You see it's wrong to kill a fief. A fief (or vor) makes his living by stealing. By killing a fief you guaranteed to answer under the gangster law (voravskoi zakon). Vori v zakone would gather and decide if you live or die.
If I ever catch one I'd make him answer under his own law. I'd take the stolen property back and gain respect in the under world. Respect alone is better than a gun. Respect is like a 24 hour security system.