BeTheChange
Master Don Juan
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Ahahaha. What was her response?I told a girl this IRL the other day, lol
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ahahaha. What was her response?I told a girl this IRL the other day, lol
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I am no Captain Save-a-Ho.I'm seing this 22 years old for almost a year now.
I've told her two times already that I dont want a serious relationship with her but but she says that she wants to keep seing me anyway. Ok, so far so good.
Eventhough she has a few very good qualities (pretty smart, fun, responsible, lots of crazy sex, never complains, always follows my lead, etc)
SHE IS THE SLVTTIEST GIRL I EVER MET.
Just being 22 she has:
a) fvcked like 20 guys.
b) had a few ONS
c) had been having regular sex with three guys during one summer
d) did a threesome with her ex and another girl
e) did TWO threesomes with me (always FMF)
f) addicted to sex
g) addicted to svcking c-ock
h) had sex in lots of semi public places
i) likes to drink a lot but she tries not to
j) says she'd like to have a threesome with two guys or a buk-kake. I offered her to do this, but she said that at the moment she just wants to be with me
k) told me once when she was a bit drunk that she would not cheat on her boyfriend but that if it happened she would not tell him about it (nice...)
I know all this information because she just told me without me asking. She just talks too much about everything even if it is about her negative qualities.
Well, I think that she is a bit too much of a slvt to make a good, trusthworthy girlfriend, dont you think?
She has a few very good positives, but she also has a few very bad negatives.
I've been seing her for almost a year so I think it is time to break up with her.
Thoughts?
if you are getting the benefits of her being a slvt (all the fun stuff that a less experienced and less easy girl wouldn't let you do) without having to be bogged down by the downsides (if she hasn't been giving you STDs or cheating on you like crazy) then you may proceed with caution.I know all this information because she just told me without me asking. She just talks too much about everything even if it is about her negative qualities.
Well, I think that she is a bit too much of a slvt to make a good, trusthworthy girlfriend, dont you think?
She has a few very good positives, but she also has a few very bad negatives.
I've been seing her for almost a year so I think it is time to break up with her.
Thoughts?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Haha yeah don't wife up this bich. Actually, don't wife up any bich cause it's 2017 and that ****e is redundant.Do labels mean anything if he makes her his wife? Haha
Haha good point in regards to a woman making you hang around through all the bs when she would of done the opposite back in her days of not giving a fuarkif you are getting the benefits of her being a slvt (all the fun stuff that a less experienced and less easy girl wouldn't let you do) without having to be bogged down by the downsides (if she hasn't been giving you STDs or cheating on you like crazy) then you may proceed with caution.
never date a slvt that has "changed her ways" because all it means is that the 20 guys before you got anal on the first date but you have to treat her like a proper lady to get a kiss
and obviously don't get serious or exclusive unless you can trust her not to cheat on you every time you turn around (which is easy if you are in the same circles as her, because unless she is some clandestine ninja then rumors will eventually spread back to you, but if you share no circles then... well.. have faith)
Exactly my pointFvck no, have some self respect.
How long were the relationships?Never date a slvt bro. I've had an LTR with 2 different slvts. I partook in one of them knowingly. Neither women cheated(that i know of obviously), but regardless they make your life miserable. They also tend to use sex against you, as this is the only thing they have to offer. Tread lightly.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I take it you don't believe peoples want/needs change as they get older and grow up more?Oh yea bro, trust her then of course.
I know it may sound weird but...the agreement is that I can fvck another girl but JUST IN A THREESOME with her included of course, so she gets to fvck a new girl too.Just make her your main chick. A plate that gets the most attention. She can call herself your girlfriend if you'd like. This shouldn't stop you from fūcking whoever you'd like. She already had a threesome with you. How could she ever be mad if you fūcked someone else, if you did it in front of her face before.
if you have any way of verifying (that is, a reliable source) that she's loyal (AKA not liable to get bored suddenly and run off with the pool boy) and faithful (AKA not going to take off her wedding ring at house parties) then she sounds like a fantastic girlfriend to mewhat if she's super slvtty but she hasnt cheated on any of her prior boyfriends?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
They don't change on the drop of a dime though man... Life changes takes time.I take it you don't believe peoples want/needs change as they get older and grow up more?
I'd love to get your advice on this further. I always get stuck thinking if I'm only good enough, if I'm the perfect man that she won't leave, won't act up.
I think that's what gets a-lot of guys, definitely myself, stuck, i.e. she told me who she was but she treated me so well initially that the reason she's now acting up is because I must not be good enough to keep her behaving.
How do you break away from this line of thinking? I get stuck thinking about this all the time.
Those are Millennial standards, not my own.Such high standards hahahahahaha
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.