BeTheChange
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 28, 2015
- Messages
- 1,461
- Reaction score
- 1,138
Ahahaha. What was her response?I told a girl this IRL the other day, lol
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ahahaha. What was her response?I told a girl this IRL the other day, lol
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I am no Captain Save-a-Ho.I'm seing this 22 years old for almost a year now.
I've told her two times already that I dont want a serious relationship with her but but she says that she wants to keep seing me anyway. Ok, so far so good.
Eventhough she has a few very good qualities (pretty smart, fun, responsible, lots of crazy sex, never complains, always follows my lead, etc)
SHE IS THE SLVTTIEST GIRL I EVER MET.
Just being 22 she has:
a) fvcked like 20 guys.
b) had a few ONS
c) had been having regular sex with three guys during one summer
d) did a threesome with her ex and another girl
e) did TWO threesomes with me (always FMF)
f) addicted to sex
g) addicted to svcking c-ock
h) had sex in lots of semi public places
i) likes to drink a lot but she tries not to
j) says she'd like to have a threesome with two guys or a buk-kake. I offered her to do this, but she said that at the moment she just wants to be with me
k) told me once when she was a bit drunk that she would not cheat on her boyfriend but that if it happened she would not tell him about it (nice...)
I know all this information because she just told me without me asking. She just talks too much about everything even if it is about her negative qualities.
Well, I think that she is a bit too much of a slvt to make a good, trusthworthy girlfriend, dont you think?
She has a few very good positives, but she also has a few very bad negatives.
I've been seing her for almost a year so I think it is time to break up with her.
Thoughts?
if you are getting the benefits of her being a slvt (all the fun stuff that a less experienced and less easy girl wouldn't let you do) without having to be bogged down by the downsides (if she hasn't been giving you STDs or cheating on you like crazy) then you may proceed with caution.I know all this information because she just told me without me asking. She just talks too much about everything even if it is about her negative qualities.
Well, I think that she is a bit too much of a slvt to make a good, trusthworthy girlfriend, dont you think?
She has a few very good positives, but she also has a few very bad negatives.
I've been seing her for almost a year so I think it is time to break up with her.
Thoughts?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Haha yeah don't wife up this bich. Actually, don't wife up any bich cause it's 2017 and that ****e is redundant.Do labels mean anything if he makes her his wife? Haha
Haha good point in regards to a woman making you hang around through all the bs when she would of done the opposite back in her days of not giving a fuarkif you are getting the benefits of her being a slvt (all the fun stuff that a less experienced and less easy girl wouldn't let you do) without having to be bogged down by the downsides (if she hasn't been giving you STDs or cheating on you like crazy) then you may proceed with caution.
never date a slvt that has "changed her ways" because all it means is that the 20 guys before you got anal on the first date but you have to treat her like a proper lady to get a kiss
and obviously don't get serious or exclusive unless you can trust her not to cheat on you every time you turn around (which is easy if you are in the same circles as her, because unless she is some clandestine ninja then rumors will eventually spread back to you, but if you share no circles then... well.. have faith)
Exactly my pointFvck no, have some self respect.
How long were the relationships?Never date a slvt bro. I've had an LTR with 2 different slvts. I partook in one of them knowingly. Neither women cheated(that i know of obviously), but regardless they make your life miserable. They also tend to use sex against you, as this is the only thing they have to offer. Tread lightly.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I take it you don't believe peoples want/needs change as they get older and grow up more?Oh yea bro, trust her then of course.
I know it may sound weird but...the agreement is that I can fvck another girl but JUST IN A THREESOME with her included of course, so she gets to fvck a new girl too.Just make her your main chick. A plate that gets the most attention. She can call herself your girlfriend if you'd like. This shouldn't stop you from fūcking whoever you'd like. She already had a threesome with you. How could she ever be mad if you fūcked someone else, if you did it in front of her face before.
if you have any way of verifying (that is, a reliable source) that she's loyal (AKA not liable to get bored suddenly and run off with the pool boy) and faithful (AKA not going to take off her wedding ring at house parties) then she sounds like a fantastic girlfriend to mewhat if she's super slvtty but she hasnt cheated on any of her prior boyfriends?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They don't change on the drop of a dime though man... Life changes takes time.I take it you don't believe peoples want/needs change as they get older and grow up more?
I'd love to get your advice on this further. I always get stuck thinking if I'm only good enough, if I'm the perfect man that she won't leave, won't act up.
I think that's what gets a-lot of guys, definitely myself, stuck, i.e. she told me who she was but she treated me so well initially that the reason she's now acting up is because I must not be good enough to keep her behaving.
How do you break away from this line of thinking? I get stuck thinking about this all the time.
Those are Millennial standards, not my own.Such high standards hahahahahaha
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.