I have this girl I've been talking to for 9 months and I'm really feeling her. And just found out she used to date a good friend of mine. And I never imagined then ever knowing each over. What would yall do if a girl you've been dating. Has dating a close friend ?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Would you guys be serious with a girl that's dated a friend
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Why should it matter? Unless they broke up recently or she still messages him in hope of getting back together, it shouldn't matter.
Everyone has a past and hers could be a far worse past than having dated a friend of yours.
If you cant move forward without insecurity issues over that, don't move forward. At this point it would be a problem that you cant resolve yourself and nothing to do with her.
Everyone has a past and hers could be a far worse past than having dated a friend of yours.
If you cant move forward without insecurity issues over that, don't move forward. At this point it would be a problem that you cant resolve yourself and nothing to do with her.
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Id probably check with the dude if it was cool. Other than that it's game on
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You and your friend will become hermanos de leche. You can always joke about that with him.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yea