I have this girl I've been talking to for 9 months and I'm really feeling her. And just found out she used to date a good friend of mine. And I never imagined then ever knowing each over. What would yall do if a girl you've been dating. Has dating a close friend ?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Would you guys be serious with a girl that's dated a friend
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Why should it matter? Unless they broke up recently or she still messages him in hope of getting back together, it shouldn't matter.
Everyone has a past and hers could be a far worse past than having dated a friend of yours.
If you cant move forward without insecurity issues over that, don't move forward. At this point it would be a problem that you cant resolve yourself and nothing to do with her.
Everyone has a past and hers could be a far worse past than having dated a friend of yours.
If you cant move forward without insecurity issues over that, don't move forward. At this point it would be a problem that you cant resolve yourself and nothing to do with her.
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Id probably check with the dude if it was cool. Other than that it's game on
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You and your friend will become hermanos de leche. You can always joke about that with him.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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