I have this girl I've been talking to for 9 months and I'm really feeling her. And just found out she used to date a good friend of mine. And I never imagined then ever knowing each over. What would yall do if a girl you've been dating. Has dating a close friend ?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Would you guys be serious with a girl that's dated a friend
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Why should it matter? Unless they broke up recently or she still messages him in hope of getting back together, it shouldn't matter.
Everyone has a past and hers could be a far worse past than having dated a friend of yours.
If you cant move forward without insecurity issues over that, don't move forward. At this point it would be a problem that you cant resolve yourself and nothing to do with her.
Everyone has a past and hers could be a far worse past than having dated a friend of yours.
If you cant move forward without insecurity issues over that, don't move forward. At this point it would be a problem that you cant resolve yourself and nothing to do with her.
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Id probably check with the dude if it was cool. Other than that it's game on
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You and your friend will become hermanos de leche. You can always joke about that with him.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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