Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DJ_in_making said:I was JUST thinking of that. I was wondering what would be the best approach. ****y/Funny + Negging and all that works well w/ chicks w/ high self esteem so that's out of the question. If you compliment her she may not believe it or your attainability may seem too high for her. Well.... thank God I don't have to worry about them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Vulpine said:Yes.
Fat chicks have hot friends.
ziminxe79 said:Would you ever approach a fat girl? Just to practice your skills on them. Not to date them or anything but just see what happans?
jonwon said:i have slept with fat girls and enjoyed all of em, slept with HB too!
but the saying is you can have 1 fat bird too many.
Fact is fat birds are perfect for bosting skills, you have more chances of success.
Also consider this, if every low confidence guy out there only had the balls to chat fat chicks up, then how many hot babes are being approached.
Annwer this: how many GL guys do you know lack confidence and only game birds they fell comfortable in gaming and are usually lower standered then they are. I know a hell of a lot!
So in that could it be percieved only the truly confident are gaming hot chicks whislt the rest are gaming average, so in that is it not safe to say average bird are getting more F**k time from guys?
Fat birds are great to practice on and the bonus if she is really ugly she will treat you like a GOD and you can almost get her to do ANYTHING at all and i mean anything.
If your horney in a club e.t.c and you knwo you have a guaranteed screw and she is fat and plain, but you think fu** it go for it, you only pleasing sociaty by saying no, also why are you fu**ing her, for you mates or for you?
Stop trying to impress your mates that are going home to flick the wrist when you could have some birds mouth around the main vain.
Obvouisly if she is really ugly then no, but saying that just get a few more beers its all cool.
Better then the alternative put it that way and great to practice your confidence on.
just dont take her out shopping or in public and your fine.
How about you start approaching guys for practice?ziminxe79 said:Would you ever approach a fat girl? Just to practice your skills on them. Not to date them or anything but just see what happans?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Just for my curiosity, could you please post a pic link to what you consider a "hot fat chick"?Mr_knowit_all said:I'd bang certain hot fat chicks. But you guys have to understand something, some HOGs have high self esteem. These fatties think they're the ****. So neg hitting would probably not be a bad idea. Or you could offer them fudge and cookies....
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Espi said:With beer goggles, anything's possible..they'll blow you in the club parking lot...nothing worng with that...
Sober, I don't approach fat girls, even if she's rich like Starr Jones![]()
Right...Mr_knowit_all said:In case you haven't noticed, Starr isn't fat anymore......Now how she got that way is up for debate....
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.