Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Would You Consider These Are Serious Red Flags?

soulforge

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Its slowly starting to sink in, that maybe I did dodge a Bullet here.. this chick said some disrespectful things at times.. and was sometimes very annoying
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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After reading your list, I'd say those are all reasons to GTFO -- the I'm a victim, mother trying to boss around a son type dynamic going on is sickening and then you have the hinting about marriage. She doesn't love you she loves the thought of being married and is looking for some sucker who she can boss around and later get rid of for a richer version with possibly more hair.

Ditch her now - with negatives like that, who cares about her positives?
 

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Cloudtopsun2100 said:
After reading your list, I'd say those are all reasons to GTFO -- the I'm a victim, mother trying to boss around a son type dynamic going on is sickening and then you have the hinting about marriage. She doesn't love you she loves the thought of being married and is looking for some sucker who she can boss around and later get rid of for a richer version with possibly more hair.

Ditch her now - with negatives like that, who cares about her positives?
I already ditched her.. Well she certainly has the victim mentality, not once has she tried to accept any responsibility for anything... also i defo could sense her playing power games..

The biggest red flag for me was, when she vanished for 6 days... when she got back in touch with me, she just blamed me for not bieng intouch..

And she said goodbye.. notice she did not try to salvage the relationship, or make any attempt to talk to me... she wished me good luck and said bye... like an idiot i started talking to her again..

i should have ditched her for that
 

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time will pass my man n u will forget about her @ss. keep on bangin new broads man n dont take none of that sh@t u dont need.
 

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backbeat said:
time will pass my man n u will forget about her @ss. keep on bangin new broads man n dont take none of that sh@t u dont need.

I hear you man... we had crazy chemistry, and the sex was incredible... didn't think i would find it this hard to move on
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LiveFreeX said:
Eject Porkins!!!

Yeh this girl had many male friends...i saw a couple of them, they looked kinda dodgy..

I always felt un easy about it, plus she was shady with her whatsapp
 

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What you looking for?

Do you want kids?
 

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soulforge said:
The one where she disappeared for 6 days is defo a red flag... the main issue i have noticed about her is, she plays the victim alot...

She will take something that can be quite easily sorted, and she will sabotage the relationship..

how would this woman stick by me through the good and the bad times, if she is willing to walk out over the slightest disagreemant?

Also she never seems to admit her part in anything, and makes no effort to resolve any conflict, especially over petty things


This is why i was forced to dump her... and something did not feel right, about her knowing so many guys

I hope i have done the right thing? ?
in retrospect, #4 isn't much of a red flag either, assuming there is/was something legitimately wrong with the restaurant you went to, and assuming she didn't blame you unless it was your fault.

#5 is an enormous red flag, sort of. there are a lot of girls who you won't ever hear from again if you don't hit them up all the time, and a lot of them play the victim too. it's annoying and unpleasant as hell and idk how you could stomach it, but hey atleast she's not crazy
 
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