I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I already ditched her.. Well she certainly has the victim mentality, not once has she tried to accept any responsibility for anything... also i defo could sense her playing power games..Cloudtopsun2100 said:After reading your list, I'd say those are all reasons to GTFO -- the I'm a victim, mother trying to boss around a son type dynamic going on is sickening and then you have the hinting about marriage. She doesn't love you she loves the thought of being married and is looking for some sucker who she can boss around and later get rid of for a richer version with possibly more hair.
Ditch her now - with negatives like that, who cares about her positives?
backbeat said:time will pass my man n u will forget about her @ss. keep on bangin new broads man n dont take none of that sh@t u dont need.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Eject Porkins!!!06. She has many male friends, keeps mentioning this dude or that dude she knows.. also she claims to know some drug dealers..
LiveFreeX said:Eject Porkins!!!
in retrospect, #4 isn't much of a red flag either, assuming there is/was something legitimately wrong with the restaurant you went to, and assuming she didn't blame you unless it was your fault.soulforge said:The one where she disappeared for 6 days is defo a red flag... the main issue i have noticed about her is, she plays the victim alot...
She will take something that can be quite easily sorted, and she will sabotage the relationship..
how would this woman stick by me through the good and the bad times, if she is willing to walk out over the slightest disagreemant?
Also she never seems to admit her part in anything, and makes no effort to resolve any conflict, especially over petty things
This is why i was forced to dump her... and something did not feel right, about her knowing so many guys
I hope i have done the right thing? ?