You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I already ditched her.. Well she certainly has the victim mentality, not once has she tried to accept any responsibility for anything... also i defo could sense her playing power games..Cloudtopsun2100 said:After reading your list, I'd say those are all reasons to GTFO -- the I'm a victim, mother trying to boss around a son type dynamic going on is sickening and then you have the hinting about marriage. She doesn't love you she loves the thought of being married and is looking for some sucker who she can boss around and later get rid of for a richer version with possibly more hair.
Ditch her now - with negatives like that, who cares about her positives?
backbeat said:time will pass my man n u will forget about her @ss. keep on bangin new broads man n dont take none of that sh@t u dont need.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Eject Porkins!!!06. She has many male friends, keeps mentioning this dude or that dude she knows.. also she claims to know some drug dealers..
LiveFreeX said:Eject Porkins!!!
in retrospect, #4 isn't much of a red flag either, assuming there is/was something legitimately wrong with the restaurant you went to, and assuming she didn't blame you unless it was your fault.soulforge said:The one where she disappeared for 6 days is defo a red flag... the main issue i have noticed about her is, she plays the victim alot...
She will take something that can be quite easily sorted, and she will sabotage the relationship..
how would this woman stick by me through the good and the bad times, if she is willing to walk out over the slightest disagreemant?
Also she never seems to admit her part in anything, and makes no effort to resolve any conflict, especially over petty things
This is why i was forced to dump her... and something did not feel right, about her knowing so many guys
I hope i have done the right thing? ?