Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Would you consider dating a single mom of 2 kids?

amaterasu

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2017
Messages
192
Reaction score
38
Age
31
Hi Dj’s

I got a match from tinder and the quick short chat was pretty going well.

She’s willing to meet with me.

I am open to any suggestions/precautions before meeting with this woman.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

BJP1991

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 11, 2018
Messages
471
Reaction score
209
Age
35
Hi Dj’s

I got a match from tinder and the quick short chat was pretty going well.

She’s willing to meet with me.

I am open to any suggestions/precautions before meeting with this woman.
Depends how old you and she are. Also depends what you’re looking for.

Women like this are sometimes just looking for a provider - I say EFF that noise.

I would not. Unless you’re cool being a beta-male provider and not having someone who is more openly available or financially burdened, like any girl who doesn’t have a baby daddy somewhere
 

Chev.Chelios

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2016
Messages
624
Reaction score
572
Age
34
Location
Spokane, Wa
As a friend and bang buddy but if you get involved with her personaly most likely the worst decision youve ever made.

Ejectulate and evacuate..

Roast em and then ghost em..

You dont wana know the legal, finicial and social hell a single mother can do
 

amaterasu

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2017
Messages
192
Reaction score
38
Age
31
As a friend and bang buddy but if you get involved with her personaly most likely the worst decision youve ever made.

Ejectulate and evacuate..

Roast em and then ghost em..

You dont wana know the legal, finicial and social hell a single mother can do
Thanks, i appreciate that.
 

Chev.Chelios

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2016
Messages
624
Reaction score
572
Age
34
Location
Spokane, Wa
Ive seen what they do first hand for years.
Especially when their hot.

They have the dads of their kids pay their whole way with complete coercion..

They have the government in bed with them.

Cops and white knights will go to any length to protect them(even when there in the wrong) and lol theyre usually 95% in the wrong.

They carry crazy victim complexs about their whole lives.. raising kids by them selves, bfs cheating on them, dad being a dead beat, their hard childhood.. never ending complaining.

Heres the big one, if you cross them they will pull the sexual molestation of their kids card on you. If they do this automaticley you are 1000% guilty before being charged. And your life is sooo fvcked.

Alot more things i can write to but just be careful lololol
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

logicallefty

Moderator
Joined
Apr 26, 2006
Messages
6,000
Reaction score
5,151
Age
52
Location
Northeast Florida, USA
No more single mommies with young kids for me. Current GF kids are 18, 21, 24 and that’s ok. But my last GF had two kids under 18 and the relationship was a lost cause.

- Want to go out ? Gotta include the kids.

- Ok fine, Want to parent the kids? Nope, your too much of a strict meany.

- Want to watch a movie at home? Can’t do that kids always hogging TV or too much of a distraction to enjoy the flick.

- Why are you giving your kid favoritism over my kid ?

- why did you take your kid out for pizza and not invite everyone?

Forget it!! It’s NOT worth it!
 

MatureDJ

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 30, 2006
Messages
12,682
Reaction score
5,126
The only way I would countenance this is if I had children of my own. Otherwise, I'll let my interminglings with single mommies be on a completely transactional basis (e.g., strippers, prostitutes).
 

Billtx49

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 23, 2013
Messages
5,989
Reaction score
5,410
Location
DFW
If you’re willing to accept last place behind her kids on her love and top priorities list then it could work. It won’t seem that way in the early stages because priorities can temporarily shift, but that’s the real deal. It was an Exit for me under those conditions though.…
 

Alvafe

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 26, 2012
Messages
3,361
Reaction score
1,594
Age
42
never dating, maybe a lay or 2, nothing more, also don't matter the number of children, single moms are always in never date colum

btw tinder matchs and talks means little, you consider "dating" someone after the first lay, before that is not even a plate, you are just talking, you kids are strange serious, acting like woman
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Chev.Chelios

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2016
Messages
624
Reaction score
572
Age
34
Location
Spokane, Wa
Funniest thing is meeting single moms out at night with their kids at their parents or fathers while their out ****ing around with tatted up drug dealer thugs running the train on them lolol
 

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
Depends how old you and she are. Also depends what you’re looking for.

Women like this are sometimes just looking for a provider - I say EFF that noise.

I would not. Unless you’re cool being a beta-male provider and not having someone who is more openly available or financially burdened, like any girl who doesn’t have a baby daddy somewhere
Ive found this is not always the case...I dated 2 who literally paid for almost everything without me asking. Depends how much valuable they view you as.
 

Kotaix

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 29, 2019
Messages
2,236
Reaction score
2,822
Age
48
The only time I find it acceptable to date a single mom is if you're a single dad as well, or she's a widow.

Single moms will do and say almost anything under the sun to hook you. Women always say they don't need no man, but that's a load of sh!t.

I've been in the same position as you, it's really hard to think with the big head when she has a firm yet jiggly rump roast... ok enough thinking about dat ass...

There's two problems: First, if you get with her, you'll end up raising another guy's offspring which is absolutely beta. Second, as some have already said, you will always come last and the child will never respect you because you can't discipline the brat because you're not it's dad.

And then there's the legal ramifications. If you get into an LTR with her you could end up in a common law situation and paying child support for a kid that isn't even yours if you break up.

It's just not worth it, even if you're just dating her to have fun it's kind of a waste of time unless you never intend to get married in the first place. Def don't meet the kids.
 

Trump

Banned
Joined
Mar 12, 2011
Messages
3,000
Reaction score
1,669
Hi Dj’s

I got a match from tinder and the quick short chat was pretty going well.

She’s willing to meet with me.
Girl got pregnant by a man, had a baby. Girl got pregnant a 2nd time by a different man had a 2nd baby. Two babies, two fathers.

Of course it’s going well and she’s “willing” to meet you. Either she wants to:

a) discard her kids and runaway to a tropical paradise with you to make sweet love to you, or;
b) have you raise her kids as your own,

My guess is (b), but who knows, maybe you are a top dog and it’s (a)

I am open to any suggestions/precautions before meeting with this woman.
Keep her as a sex toy.

Go find Ms. Right.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Robert28

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2008
Messages
5,027
Reaction score
5,356
It’ll be the hardest sex you ever worked for in your life. Single moms got this rap about being easy to lay, not in my experience. You’ll end up friend zoned, beta provider, she will dump you when you least expect it, etc. I could hookup with a fvcking model before I could have success with a single mom, I have no clue why. My game sucks with them but that’s not really a bad thing, saves my ass.lol
 

Desdinova

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2004
Messages
11,680
Reaction score
4,874
If you wanna like up a few SMs to fukk, then go ahead. If you're looking for a meaningful relationship with a hot woman and are just accepting the kids as a price that comes with the territory, stay the fukk away from her.
 

FMCSMT

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 8, 2017
Messages
220
Reaction score
153
Ive found this is not always the case...I dated 2 who literally paid for almost everything without me asking. Depends how much valuable they view you as.
Same. 2 of them like that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Top