"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I went to this high-end strip club last night with a friend. This stripper came to me and said I was really cute. I told her that I bet she says that to everyone. We talked for a while and then she said she was really attracted to me and all of a sudden, she started kissing me (I mean tongue and everything). The two kisses lasted like 5 seconds each.

I didn't think of it at the moment, but now I am concerned about HIV and ****. Damn, I am so paranoid when it comes to such stuff. Would you be concerned if you were in my shoes?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I am confused. Are you talking about the kiss or about the prospect of having sex with her relative to your concern about HIV?

If its the kiss, don't worry. The chances of that occurring are low to non-existant. If its the prospect of having sex with her, only you can determine if it is worth the risk but definitely wear a condom if you decided to do it.
 

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Originally posted by SexPDX
I am confused. Are you talking about the kiss or about the prospect of having sex with her relative to your concern about HIV?

If its the kiss, don't worry. The chances of that occurring are low to non-existant. If its the prospect of having sex with her, only you can determine if it is worth the risk but definitely wear a condom if you decided to do it.
Thanks for the reply man. Oh definitely not sex. Thank God that didn't happen or I would be dead by now :woo: I am just concerned about the kiss.
 

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So a stripper came up to you and kiss you and the first thing you think about is HIV? haha nothing wrong with that but it's just funny to me.
 

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HIV you shouldn't worry about.
Think: cold sores, and genital warts. Some STDs u can pick up from kissing. can't remember which, but i do get test every year for all of them.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by Lawyer101

I didn't think of it at the moment, but now I am concerned about HIV and ****. Damn, I am so paranoid when it comes to such stuff.
I'd say that's the bigger issue, that you are causing yourself to worry so unnecessarily. What's up with that?
 

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Herpes Type I is what is most likely to be transmitted through a kiss. There has to be a core sore present, but sometimes women cover them up with lipstick. You are almost certainly fine, though. Don't do it again if you have any sort of sore or cut in your mouth.
 

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$hit, man, she's probably cleaner than you are. I thnk this is pretty much a summation of YOUR insecurities.... have you ever worried about HIV from kissing any other girl the first time you kissed them? Jesus... you need to calm down a little!
 

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some study had said something to the effect that for you to get the chance of getting aids from kissing is raised to 1 in 10 million after you have swallowed something ridiculous like 30 gallons of saliver from the other persons in one sitting.. so ummmm yeah!! Not to worry!
 

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What a silly post, I can only assume it's a troll as I've seen many variations on this post including 'I had a dance and noticed blood on my jeans, do I have HIV'.

On a more helpful note, if anyone thinks they may have contracted a venereal disease, see a doctor not a Forum.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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