“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Prodoge

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Yesterday I added a girl on snapchat through the friend suggestions which she accepted right away.

The thing is this girl used to be one of my friends GF a few years back, i only briefly know her ( saw her a couple of times when she was with my mate).

I feel like it would be awkward if i texted her out of the blue just like that. At first I thought about waiting to see if she responds to some of my snapchats to monitor her interest.
Maybe you guys have some ideas how I could reach out without appearing cringy
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Yesterday I added a girl on snapchat through the friend suggestions which she accepted right away.

The thing is this girl used to be one of my friends GF a few years back, i only briefly know her ( saw her a couple of times when she was with my mate).

I feel like it would be awkward if i texted her out of the blue just like that. At first I thought about waiting to see if she responds to some of my snapchats to monitor her interest.
Maybe you guys have some ideas how I could reach out without appearing cringy
 

Prodoge

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Ok fair enough but it was over 3 years ago and as far as i know she was in other relationship (s) since then. Plus i rarely see him nowadays since highshool is over.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Bro code.
Check in with your friend. If he genuinely doesn't appear hesitant, go for it.

I personally avoid these situations because there are so many other girls out there.
 

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Bro code.
Check in with your friend. If he genuinely doesn't appear hesitant, go for it.

Personally I avoid these situations because there are so many other girls out there.
Sure thing i don't want to annoy him, I just saw the opportunity and thought why not
 

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how good of a bro? are we talking outter circle acquaintance or are we talking your bros you chill with daily? makes a big diff.


If it was a real bro you shouldnt have even added the hoe.


otherwise, go ahead and proceed as you wish. no need to ask permission thats beta chit.
 

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how good of a bro? are we talking outter circle acquaintance or are we talking your bros you chill with daily? makes a big diff.


If it was a real bro you shouldnt have even added the hoe.


otherwise, go ahead and proceed as you wish. no need to ask permission thats beta chit.
Well we saw each other daily 3 years ago in high school. Since then it has fidled out and i only see him rarely, last time was at my birthday back in april.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Well we saw each other daily 3 years ago in high school. Since then it has fidled out and i only see him rarely, last time was at my birthday back in april.
She hasn't been with him for a few years and you rarely see him. She's fair game now.
 

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How would you start a conversation then ?
Let's get together for drinks and catch up. (old friend or acquaintance mode) She will let you know if it's doable.
Don't get stuck talking about the past if you get the date though. Go into regular first date mode asap.
 
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Let's get together for drinks and catch up. (old friend or acquaintance mode) She will let you know if it's doable.
Don't get stuck talking about the past if you get the date though. Go into regular first date mode asap.
Welp i messaged her, lets see what she has to say
 

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How would you start a conversation then ?
Long time no see.....how have you been?

If she is interested, she'll pick up the convo. If she starts asking questions showing interest, ask her to drinks
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Woman can be a bit weird when it comes to texting.

I briefly met a Chinese lady about a month ago in the street with a mutual acquaintance. I sensed from her that she was interested in meeting me.

Cue forward two weeks, and I finally bump into her on the street again. I stop here, say hello, and get her number. Why not right?

Text her something like 'Hi.. me here.. and how was the event you were going to?'

No reply. Radio silence for two weeks. Oh well, another one bites the dust I suppose.

Then out of the blue, she invites me to a small concert going on.
 
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