"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yesterday I added a girl on snapchat through the friend suggestions which she accepted right away.

The thing is this girl used to be one of my friends GF a few years back, i only briefly know her ( saw her a couple of times when she was with my mate).

I feel like it would be awkward if i texted her out of the blue just like that. At first I thought about waiting to see if she responds to some of my snapchats to monitor her interest.
Maybe you guys have some ideas how I could reach out without appearing cringy
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Prodoge said:
Yesterday I added a girl on snapchat through the friend suggestions which she accepted right away.

The thing is this girl used to be one of my friends GF a few years back, i only briefly know her ( saw her a couple of times when she was with my mate).

I feel like it would be awkward if i texted her out of the blue just like that. At first I thought about waiting to see if she responds to some of my snapchats to monitor her interest.
Maybe you guys have some ideas how I could reach out without appearing cringy
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Ok fair enough but it was over 3 years ago and as far as i know she was in other relationship (s) since then. Plus i rarely see him nowadays since highshool is over.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bro code.
Check in with your friend. If he genuinely doesn't appear hesitant, go for it.

I personally avoid these situations because there are so many other girls out there.
 
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darksprezzatura said:
Bro code.
Check in with your friend. If he genuinely doesn't appear hesitant, go for it.

Personally I avoid these situations because there are so many other girls out there.
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Sure thing i don't want to annoy him, I just saw the opportunity and thought why not
 
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how good of a bro? are we talking outter circle acquaintance or are we talking your bros you chill with daily? makes a big diff.


If it was a real bro you shouldnt have even added the hoe.


otherwise, go ahead and proceed as you wish. no need to ask permission thats beta chit.
 
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Julian said:
how good of a bro? are we talking outter circle acquaintance or are we talking your bros you chill with daily? makes a big diff.


If it was a real bro you shouldnt have even added the hoe.


otherwise, go ahead and proceed as you wish. no need to ask permission thats beta chit.
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Well we saw each other daily 3 years ago in high school. Since then it has fidled out and i only see him rarely, last time was at my birthday back in april.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Prodoge said:
Well we saw each other daily 3 years ago in high school. Since then it has fidled out and i only see him rarely, last time was at my birthday back in april.
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She hasn't been with him for a few years and you rarely see him. She's fair game now.
 
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How would you start a conversation then ?
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Let's get together for drinks and catch up. (old friend or acquaintance mode) She will let you know if it's doable.
Don't get stuck talking about the past if you get the date though. Go into regular first date mode asap.
 
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billtx49 said:
Let's get together for drinks and catch up. (old friend or acquaintance mode) She will let you know if it's doable.
Don't get stuck talking about the past if you get the date though. Go into regular first date mode asap.
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Welp i messaged her, lets see what she has to say
 
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Prodoge said:
How would you start a conversation then ?
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Long time no see.....how have you been?

If she is interested, she'll pick up the convo. If she starts asking questions showing interest, ask her to drinks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Woman can be a bit weird when it comes to texting.

I briefly met a Chinese lady about a month ago in the street with a mutual acquaintance. I sensed from her that she was interested in meeting me.

Cue forward two weeks, and I finally bump into her on the street again. I stop here, say hello, and get her number. Why not right?

Text her something like 'Hi.. me here.. and how was the event you were going to?'

No reply. Radio silence for two weeks. Oh well, another one bites the dust I suppose.

Then out of the blue, she invites me to a small concert going on.
 
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