"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Worth my time? If so best approach?

HPUser7

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I'm a typical busy college student and got overwhelmed in school and work this semester. 5 months ago, I met a girl I was interested in. I have only occasionally (maybe once or twice a month) communicated with her via snap chat but not much else since then.
What's the best way to start things up again after this amount of time? Or has my window of opportunity closed?


Note - seriously don't have oneitis; she just happens to fit into a slim window of what I find attractive.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jetleg

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I'm a typical busy college student and got overwhelmed in school and work this semester. 5 months ago, I met a girl I was interested in. I have only occasionally (maybe once or twice a month) communicated with her via snap chat but not much else since then.
1) You were interested in her, was she in you?
2) Come on mate. This is a perfect example for a orbitor . You initiate conversation 2 time a month, and she answers out of self validation. Stop being that loser guy.
2) Why the f*ck you are cummincating over snap chat? maybe i'm too old for this sh1t. but i would never EVER talk to a girl over snap chat / facebook. This is a perfect way to get friendzoned.

Is she into you? probably not. are you in the orbitor zone? yes.
The only way to know if to ask her out, but don't expect much mate.

Nexting her and moving on is the best solution here.
 
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"Hey, let's go for a coupld of drinks on X at X"

That's it. If she likes you she will jump on the oppo after 5 months, if she says no, you can stop fantasizing about her and move on.
 

lizardking82

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Note - seriously don't have oneitis; she just happens to fit into a slim window of what I find attractive.
Flawed thinking, in my opinion, which leads to at least partial oneitis. Have you experimented with different types, ages of women? You only can know what you like when you try different things.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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