"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Worth my time? If so best approach?

HPUser7

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 11, 2015
Messages
16
Reaction score
4
Location
Arizona
I'm a typical busy college student and got overwhelmed in school and work this semester. 5 months ago, I met a girl I was interested in. I have only occasionally (maybe once or twice a month) communicated with her via snap chat but not much else since then.
What's the best way to start things up again after this amount of time? Or has my window of opportunity closed?


Note - seriously don't have oneitis; she just happens to fit into a slim window of what I find attractive.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Jetleg

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 24, 2014
Messages
317
Reaction score
212
I'm a typical busy college student and got overwhelmed in school and work this semester. 5 months ago, I met a girl I was interested in. I have only occasionally (maybe once or twice a month) communicated with her via snap chat but not much else since then.
1) You were interested in her, was she in you?
2) Come on mate. This is a perfect example for a orbitor . You initiate conversation 2 time a month, and she answers out of self validation. Stop being that loser guy.
2) Why the f*ck you are cummincating over snap chat? maybe i'm too old for this sh1t. but i would never EVER talk to a girl over snap chat / facebook. This is a perfect way to get friendzoned.

Is she into you? probably not. are you in the orbitor zone? yes.
The only way to know if to ask her out, but don't expect much mate.

Nexting her and moving on is the best solution here.
 
Joined
May 4, 2017
Messages
125
Reaction score
43
Age
42
"Hey, let's go for a coupld of drinks on X at X"

That's it. If she likes you she will jump on the oppo after 5 months, if she says no, you can stop fantasizing about her and move on.
 

lizardking82

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 8, 2016
Messages
1,884
Reaction score
1,546
Note - seriously don't have oneitis; she just happens to fit into a slim window of what I find attractive.
Flawed thinking, in my opinion, which leads to at least partial oneitis. Have you experimented with different types, ages of women? You only can know what you like when you try different things.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top