"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm a typical busy college student and got overwhelmed in school and work this semester. 5 months ago, I met a girl I was interested in. I have only occasionally (maybe once or twice a month) communicated with her via snap chat but not much else since then.
What's the best way to start things up again after this amount of time? Or has my window of opportunity closed?


Note - seriously don't have oneitis; she just happens to fit into a slim window of what I find attractive.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jetleg

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I'm a typical busy college student and got overwhelmed in school and work this semester. 5 months ago, I met a girl I was interested in. I have only occasionally (maybe once or twice a month) communicated with her via snap chat but not much else since then.
1) You were interested in her, was she in you?
2) Come on mate. This is a perfect example for a orbitor . You initiate conversation 2 time a month, and she answers out of self validation. Stop being that loser guy.
2) Why the f*ck you are cummincating over snap chat? maybe i'm too old for this sh1t. but i would never EVER talk to a girl over snap chat / facebook. This is a perfect way to get friendzoned.

Is she into you? probably not. are you in the orbitor zone? yes.
The only way to know if to ask her out, but don't expect much mate.

Nexting her and moving on is the best solution here.
 
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"Hey, let's go for a coupld of drinks on X at X"

That's it. If she likes you she will jump on the oppo after 5 months, if she says no, you can stop fantasizing about her and move on.
 

lizardking82

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Note - seriously don't have oneitis; she just happens to fit into a slim window of what I find attractive.
Flawed thinking, in my opinion, which leads to at least partial oneitis. Have you experimented with different types, ages of women? You only can know what you like when you try different things.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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