"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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worst words to hear in a coversation

Lamia

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"sooo... "
"yeah....."
There isn't a word I hate than those two when I'm chatting with a girl online. Lately Ive brushed it off as they are not interested in me but they send me messages and it ends the same way. I used ask some random quitness of the conversation, but I kinda give her the same treatment.

Is there some advice or guide I can use with keeping a conversation going?
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why are you chatting online? Tell them to meet you for coffee or something. Get some real LIVE face time. Chatting on line is BORING!
 

lil hooligan

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how about: stop, no & don't
 

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when you don't hear anything in a "conversation" that's when your fvcked.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sooo the rule goes like dis.....

1) email
2) IM conversation
3) text message then call
4) date

ummmm always escalate
 

lil hooligan

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I'd prefer to hear, NO DON'T STOP
 

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WaterTiger said:
Why are you chatting online? Tell them to meet you for coffee or something. Get some real LIVE face time. Chatting on line is BORING!
thats some real sh#t right there-cut that online crap down-cut through the BS and set up a in person meeting at the local hot spot- If you spend too much time on the net chatting you wont have anything to really say when you finally meet trust me I know.
 

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Freeman said:
thats some real sh#t right there-cut that online crap down-cut through the BS and set up a in person meeting at the local hot spot- If you spend too much time on the net chatting you wont have anything to really say when you finally meet trust me I know.

Wow that is so true.
No lie Im removing it from my desktop.

But what about like when your with a person in person. I sometimes run into a problem with keeping the girl engaged in a conversation.
I love talking, but Im not gonna hold up the whole fvcking conversation.

Any advice?
 
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