Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
and there it is. my new coach is DAVID RICKS !!!" yea man i love talking about this stuff, I'll teach you EVERYTHING I know. "
Hah, there's name droppin for ya. Did she give you her name? If she's lifted with a bunch of the top strength coaches she's probably known herself(esp with a 300 bench!!!) That's no easy feat, and an almost impossible one for a woman even with juice.She told me she lifted with dave tate and every single respectable name in the strength and conditioning family.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Drum&Bass said:My gym is becoming loaded with lifting celebrities. This diesel body builder chick who think benches over 300 and squats over 500 see's me training this dude and asks which template i was studying. I told her I followed alot of west side stuff, but I quit following other peopls stuff and did my own style of training. She told me she lifted with dave tate and every single respectable name in the strength and conditioning family.
I told her my plans to open my own gym and she told me her plans of starting a strongman lifting club. I then introduced her to dave ricks and now, im gonna unite all the strongest people at my gym into a sick lifting community.
I've also shifted my focus. I've decided to emphasize my upper body training in order to hit 315 on the bench. after i hit 315 the next goal is 500 on the squat.
instead of putting down my numbers Im just gonna focus on Program Design.
for now until Im better conditioned for this new routine i created.
Mon
Rack Bench Press (pressing from the lowest position)
Rack Lockouts
One Arm DB row (Heavy weight Hi-Rep)
Power Rows (exercise I made up using a hammer strength squat lunge machine)
Farmers Walk
Face Pulls
Wed
Band Bench Press
Ply Push Ups
Fri circuit training for 10 rounds
Pull Ups
Dips
Farmers walk (pinching plates together)
I haven't done wed. work out yet so Im not sure how its gonna work out but so far my programs have been money !
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.