Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Drum&Bass said:Incline Bench Press
Warm up
Warm up w Bar
warm up with 65lbs
10 x 95
6 x 115
4 x 135
3 x 155
2 x 185
3 x 205
3 x 225
2 x 225
1 x 225
1 x 225
etc.. till I can't push 225 any more
then I'll drop down to..
1 x 205
etc.. till I can't do 205 anymore
Close grip push ups with plates on my back
5 X BW
10 x 45lbs
6 x 55lbs
4 x 70lbs
3 x 90lbs
I don't ever have a set number of reps when I Incline bench press, the only rule I have is to gauge how good I feel and never hit failure until I get into the 200 range. I don't have set number of reps for any of the lifts I perform. The only thing I try to do is lift heavier than my previous week.
If I am doing speed lifting then I will do a set of 15 or 20 reps.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I havent done them in awhile...I stumbled across these pull ups called wide grip sternum pull ups and sternum chin ups. I focus on pulling explosively and they leave me WRECKED ! only using bodyweight..At some point in time Im gonna add weight but its gonna be awhile before revert back to regular pull ups after doing these.how are those weighted chins coming?
HELL YEA !!! I had a competition with one of my co-workers, we were doing 1 rep max arm exercises and then we got to dips..I banged out 5 reps with 120lbs strapped to my waist..I could have done more but I was hungry. i dont do them often but my triceps usually retain mass and strength easily so I dont have to work very hard on them.Do you do weighted dips?
thanks !! I work out with a few people that are on the american olympic weightlifting team, I've always wanted to compete and its definitely something i'd enjoy working for.I was looking back at your other number... the 265 x 1 jerk is awesome! You should consider competing in olympic weight lifting!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.