Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
nothing wrong with a 2 hour workout but you'd need to fuel yourself during the workout for optimum perfomance. however the above workout needs improving.ryannath said:OMG! You workout for 2 hours man! I am no workout guru, but that's way too fvcking long man. The most anyone should workout is an hour. I usually workout for 45 mins, sometimes just 30 and I don't get any worse results than you. You are wayyyy overtraining man! Ease up on so many exercises.
Btw, how did the cold approach go? What did you say? Get her number?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dude doing abs 5-6 days a week is wayyyyyyy too much. Just hit them hard once or twice a week for 10-15 minutes and that will be enough,they aren't big muscles you legs and back.Kev07 said:i do abs 5-6 days a week, i'd rather go core excercises so i dont really throw in any pure arm excercises
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I don't write in caps or bold very often, but let's get this out of the way:blinkwatt said:Kev07,
You may want to insert a day that focuses on arms & abs. If you want to keep it short and efficient try skulls crusher,kickbacks and rope pulldown for your tri and two different curl exercises for bis and then decline sit ups and upright chair leg lifts.
This is where a clean line divides winners and losers.my diet has been going to hell, end of school year, bbqs, football, etc
Sound advice!Quiksilver said:This is where a clean line divides winners and losers.
Get back on your horse, soldier.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
i do not.Quiksilver said:Kev, do you use a lifting belt for DLs and squats?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.