Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
nothing wrong with a 2 hour workout but you'd need to fuel yourself during the workout for optimum perfomance. however the above workout needs improving.ryannath said:OMG! You workout for 2 hours man! I am no workout guru, but that's way too fvcking long man. The most anyone should workout is an hour. I usually workout for 45 mins, sometimes just 30 and I don't get any worse results than you. You are wayyyy overtraining man! Ease up on so many exercises.
Btw, how did the cold approach go? What did you say? Get her number?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dude doing abs 5-6 days a week is wayyyyyyy too much. Just hit them hard once or twice a week for 10-15 minutes and that will be enough,they aren't big muscles you legs and back.Kev07 said:i do abs 5-6 days a week, i'd rather go core excercises so i dont really throw in any pure arm excercises
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I don't write in caps or bold very often, but let's get this out of the way:blinkwatt said:Kev07,
You may want to insert a day that focuses on arms & abs. If you want to keep it short and efficient try skulls crusher,kickbacks and rope pulldown for your tri and two different curl exercises for bis and then decline sit ups and upright chair leg lifts.
This is where a clean line divides winners and losers.my diet has been going to hell, end of school year, bbqs, football, etc
Sound advice!Quiksilver said:This is where a clean line divides winners and losers.
Get back on your horse, soldier.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i do not.Quiksilver said:Kev, do you use a lifting belt for DLs and squats?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.