She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No, you can't work that specific part.whatdude said:
Abs are SO built in the weight room. If you don't involve the abs in exercises, they won't grow. You need to isolate them or to do heavy compound movements that invlve the core stabilizers (abs part of this).snareknight08 said:The best exercise to get your \ / defined is to do leg lifts from what I understand. You lay flat on your back and grab your butt then keep your legs together and lift them. That also works your lower abs. Another thing though, abs will never "bulge" like your arms and legs so really exercising is I won't say useless but it's not going to make them show up. I've had this misconception for a long time but it's just simply not true. DIET is the key factor in building abs. "Abs are built in the kitchen, not in the weight room".
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Sorry, didn't mean to offend as it seems I have. Let me explain my reasoning to what seems to you like a bunch of nonsense. The thing is, if you have flab covering your abs in the first place no amount of leg lifts, crunches or anything else is going to make your abs show up until you get rid of all the fat that is covering them. That's where diet comes in. Everybody has abs even the lardass in the corner over there in class. That's no hard thing to understand but how the hell is he going to show off them beauties? He's GOT TO DIET. And that was just an extreme example even if you are 10-20 lbs over your BMI you'll still need to diet to get off that excess weight. Also everybody I know that has DEFINED abs is on the low end of their BMI unless they have a huge body build (and I can't say I know anybody with a big build that has abs). Take it from someone with that build, they aren't easy to get. I'm trying now and once I get this fat off I know they'll show. NOW FOR YOUR POINT. EXERCISE is key to defining them and defining them only, not getting them. Now, if all he's wanting to do is define them I wasted my time, his, and everyone elses that disagrees with me.brucevangeorge said:
I have a larger body build, have fat on me and still have my abs. they're the two at the top, right?snareknight08 said:
Julian said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Great idea! Get yourself one of those riding bulls see and then....Soprano said:
When you are ab crunching your body weight x 2 and leg raising 70+ pounds with good form on a regular basis, you can and will have visible abs even at higher body fat levels.snareknight08 said:
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If you have 6.5% bodyfat your abs should be visible. That is of course if you HAD any to begin with. You need more muscle, your abs don;t show because you have none. You can go to as low as 2% bodyfat.. it won't matter if you don't have the muscle.whatdude said: