You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No, you can't work that specific part.whatdude said:
Abs are SO built in the weight room. If you don't involve the abs in exercises, they won't grow. You need to isolate them or to do heavy compound movements that invlve the core stabilizers (abs part of this).snareknight08 said:The best exercise to get your \ / defined is to do leg lifts from what I understand. You lay flat on your back and grab your butt then keep your legs together and lift them. That also works your lower abs. Another thing though, abs will never "bulge" like your arms and legs so really exercising is I won't say useless but it's not going to make them show up. I've had this misconception for a long time but it's just simply not true. DIET is the key factor in building abs. "Abs are built in the kitchen, not in the weight room".
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Sorry, didn't mean to offend as it seems I have. Let me explain my reasoning to what seems to you like a bunch of nonsense. The thing is, if you have flab covering your abs in the first place no amount of leg lifts, crunches or anything else is going to make your abs show up until you get rid of all the fat that is covering them. That's where diet comes in. Everybody has abs even the lardass in the corner over there in class. That's no hard thing to understand but how the hell is he going to show off them beauties? He's GOT TO DIET. And that was just an extreme example even if you are 10-20 lbs over your BMI you'll still need to diet to get off that excess weight. Also everybody I know that has DEFINED abs is on the low end of their BMI unless they have a huge body build (and I can't say I know anybody with a big build that has abs). Take it from someone with that build, they aren't easy to get. I'm trying now and once I get this fat off I know they'll show. NOW FOR YOUR POINT. EXERCISE is key to defining them and defining them only, not getting them. Now, if all he's wanting to do is define them I wasted my time, his, and everyone elses that disagrees with me.brucevangeorge said:
I have a larger body build, have fat on me and still have my abs. they're the two at the top, right?snareknight08 said:
Julian said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Great idea! Get yourself one of those riding bulls see and then....Soprano said:
When you are ab crunching your body weight x 2 and leg raising 70+ pounds with good form on a regular basis, you can and will have visible abs even at higher body fat levels.snareknight08 said:
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If you have 6.5% bodyfat your abs should be visible. That is of course if you HAD any to begin with. You need more muscle, your abs don;t show because you have none. You can go to as low as 2% bodyfat.. it won't matter if you don't have the muscle.whatdude said: